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Why is blaming anyone a useful activity? It certainly doesn't solve the problem they've got.
And while blaming anyone but yourself for something might make you feel better in the moment, it's also saying, "I have no power whatsoever to do anything in hopes of having a better outcome." So, IF there was anything they COULD have done, to have better luck in their struggle, now they've thrown that out the window. Way too much work. So much easier to keep suffering, blame others, and complain to the internet.
Why is blaming anyone a useful activity? It certainly doesn't solve the problem they've got.
And while blaming anyone but yourself for something might make you feel better in the moment, it's also saying, "I have no power whatsoever to do anything in hopes of having a better outcome." So, IF there was anything they COULD have done, to have better luck in their struggle, now they've thrown that out the window. Way too much work. So much easier to keep suffering, blame others, and complain to the internet.
Regardless of what you think you know some men don't have the power to change anything but you would have to be a man to know this.
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Regardless of what you think you know some men don't have the power to change anything but you would have to be a man to know this.
I'm a man, and this makes no sense to me. If I can't change me, no one can. I can't change others, that is true. But I have full power to change me, if I want to badly enough, and I have full power to accept me for things that can't be changed, or I'm unwilling to put in the work to change.
Regardless of what you think you know some men don't have the power to change anything but you would have to be a man to know this.
You have to be a human being of any description to know that there are some things we can't change and some things we can.
Both sexes know this. We've known it all our lives.
Within any given parameter - say, dating - there ARE things we can change. Period. We can change tons of things about ourselves. We can take our minds of it and have other interests. We can look into ourselves and our pasts to see if we're holding ourselves back. We can learn to set boundaries if we've been stepped on in the past. We can go to different places, seek out new types of people...the list goes on.
I'm not being cavalier. Feeling helpless stinks. But you're not helpless. You just think you are. WE ALL have disappointments in our lives - some of them HUGE. We all have to deal and we have to think how we can change things, and do that small part.
eh, both men and women sometimes have difficulties in dating. No you cant change the fact that you are 5'6", but you can choose to not worry about things you cant control. If oyu do your best with what youve got, and what you can actually control, usually that plenty to get as many women as you please. Its all between your ears, anyway.
You have to be a human being of any description to know that there are some things we can't change and some things we can.
Both sexes know this. We've known it all our lives.
Within any given parameter - say, dating - there ARE things we can change. Period. We can change tons of things about ourselves. We can take our minds of it and have other interests. We can look into ourselves and our pasts to see if we're holding ourselves back. We can learn to set boundaries if we've been stepped on in the past. We can go to different places, seek out new types of people...the list goes on.
I'm not being cavalier. Feeling helpless stinks. But you're not helpless. You just think you are. WE ALL have disappointments in our lives - some of them HUGE. We all have to deal and we have to think how we can change things, and do that small part.
I'm at the point that I could care less, I was just stating a fact so save me the fake encouragement.
I'm at the point that I could care less, I was just stating a fact so save me the fake encouragement.
No, you were implying that only men have it hard in dating or feel helpless to change their bad situations. Which is very silly. Men are not any more or less powerless, compared to women. There are women who think that all men will treat them in ways they don't like, or that they aren't what all men want in a mate, and who are miserable in their loneliness or relationship failures...just as there are men.
But hey, if it makes you feel special to claim that I couldn't POSSIBLY understand your own unique man problems, you go with your bad self.
No, you were implying that only men have it hard in dating or feel helpless to change their bad situations. Which is very silly. Men are not any more or less powerless, compared to women. There are women who think that all men will treat them in ways they don't like, or that they aren't what all men want in a mate, and who are miserable in their loneliness or relationship failures...just as there are men.
But hey, if it makes you feel special to claim that I couldn't POSSIBLY understand your own unique man problems, you go with your bad self.
You don't know me so to claim that you know what my problems are is extremely ignorant of you.
Claiming that anyone would have to be a man to understand anything is extremely ignorant of you.
Try me, joker.
I'm not claiming I understand what womens problems are, to be honest I don't care.
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