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Is there some unwritten mantra that says you should wait X [months/years/eons] to tell someone that you love them?? Love is an emotion that you feel, it just is. The same can be said if you don't love some one, you'll know it. We knew that we loved each other within months. Married within 1.5 years.
I get that technically, there's no timeline, and I try to be open-minded and remember that people are individuals, but honestly, if I hadn't exchanged I-love-yous in this period of time (is it about six months?) I'd probably figure the lightning bolt just wasn't going to strike.
I'm sure some will say I'd have missed out that way, but I don't really believe that. I think a bunch of factors have to fall into place in order for something to work, and being on generally the same time frame is one of those things (just in my opinion). And not feeling it, and/or not thinking my SO felt it, before a few months had passed, would for me mean I was lukewarm and perhaps settling just because everything else seemed basically to fit.
It takes so much more than just getting along, IMO.
I think "I love you" means different things to different people. For some, it carries much greater meaning. Years and years ago, my first husband took FOREVER to say it, but for him, it basically meant he wanted to marry me. It wasn't long before we were engaged and married after that.
The second husband said it much quicker, but he was a narcissist and a love-bomber, so I tend to be wary now of those who say anything too soon. We married very quickly too, HUGE mistake on my part getting involved with him in the first place, much less marrying quickly.
I think my current SO is much more like husband number one with regard to the meaning he attaches to saying the words. So I am quite willing to be patient now, as his actions show he cares quite a bit.
So getting a good read on how your partner feels about the words is advisable.
There is no time limit. Do what you feel is right. If you love the woman, you love her. Just tell her.
Putting a time limit on that kinda stuff is silly. If you can't see yourself without her, you love being with her and spending time with her, and you actually feel like you love her, then go for it.
I don't recall we said I love you's oh nvm. He said it on the day he tried to get in my pants didn't get any that day though. LOL. But his actions speak a whole lot so I've no qualms marrying him that quick.
I've always been a believer of action speaks louder than words that's why his iloveu that day didn't work out for him. LOL. He got a kiss. That's it.
I don't care about hearing iloveu. I care more about seeing and feeling it by the person showing and doing it. Know what I'm sayin?
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