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How many relationships have you been in where your partner(wife, GF) earned more than you did? And I don't mean for a few months or during lay offs. Like together and she made more than you every month
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Many. It was the norm when I lived in Boston. Often double or more than what I made. One of my exes just left after a week in Aspen to go spend a week heli skiing in Canada, on a whim. That's something I couldn't entertain. It was almost never an issue though, except with her.
My husband did, through the first few years of our marriage. He didn't care...I didn't either...neither of us was rich but we didn't pull chump change either. Neither of us was really "leaning on" the other for money so it was a non-issue and then after we got married the money all went in the same pot anyway.
How many relationships have you been in where your partner(wife, GF) earned more than you did? And I don't mean for a few months or during lay offs. Like together and she made more than you every month
My wife is the CFO of a sizable company. I am a business owner in an industry that's highly volatile. How volatile? In 2007, there was a check in the mail every day. In 2008, my revenue dropped by 70%, and wasn't much better in 2009. Last year? I had a great year.
So there are years where I do considerably better and there are years when she is the primary breadwinner.
But it has never caused tension between us. I am pretty secure in who I am and we live way beneath our means. Our house is not very large in a very nice neighborhood. We drive cars until the wheels fall off.
The point of that is that we both contribute to the commonweal and don't keep score.
My most recent 5 year long relationship. However, it wasnt a huge difference even though she did mention it a few times that "only if I could be earning a little more"....lol. Oddly enough, a couple months after our breakup I doubled my salary. Most of the 5 years we did really well with money, sharing expanses etc - it was never a poinbt of contention or an issue really
Salary is one component but you must also account for benefit contributions, debt, spending behaviors. One can pull in a big salary but **** it away on meaningless stuff to be poor.
How many relationships have you been in where your partner(wife, GF) earned more than you did? And I don't mean for a few months or during lay offs. Like together and she made more than you every month
I was the woman who earned more for many years. I earned $20k more a year than my ex husband. He's my ex husband... so yeah... he pretty much resented me for it. About a year after we got married, I got a huge raise. Shortly after that we split.
I don't know if money was the reason why we split solely (we had a lot of other issues that we couldn't resolve) but it certainly didn't help that he resented me.
Not all men will resent a woman who earns more but some men are not ok with it.
Many. It was the norm when I lived in Boston. Often double or more than what I made. One of my exes just left after a week in Aspen to go spend a week heli skiing in Canada, on a whim. That's something I couldn't entertain. It was almost never an issue though, except with her.
I remember you mentioned you dated women who made 3-4X as you. Do you make higher end 5 figures or lower end 6 figures? Because that means you are dating the upper percentile in terms of income in Boston.
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He didn't care...I didn't either...neither of us was rich but we didn't pull chump change either. Neither of us was really "leaning on" the other for money so it was a non-issue and then after we got married the money all went in the same pot anyway.
