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Didn't mean to quizz you, it's just that you got out the shower and this conversation with him came up so I was trying to figure it out.
Perhaps give it some time (as you are doing). There is the worst case scenario which has already been mentioned - that he is dating her - but that is not necessarily the case. He might just want his time out without you and got irritated when you sprung this on him. That does NOT justify his reaction though. Maybe he's had a stressful day and took it out on you or something. I'm a guy - I'm guilty of that too and it's not right. Maybe he has been looking forward to 'his' evening? I don't know. Maybe he does have a date.
Didn't mean to quizz you, it's just that you got out the shower and this conversation with him came up so I was trying to figure it out.
Perhaps give it some time (as you are doing). There is the worst case scenario which has already been mentioned - that he is dating her - but that is not necessarily the case. He might just want his time out without you and got irritated when you sprung this on him. That does NOT justify his reaction though. Maybe he's had a stressful day and took it out on you or something. I'm a guy - I'm guilty of that too and it's not right. Maybe he has been looking forward to 'his' evening? I don't know. Maybe he does have a date.
I just found out there wasn't a group of other people there, it was just another female friend that I've met before. So him, and the 2 female friends. I still don't know why he wouldn't want me there though :/
Suspicious people might say that the reason he didn't want you to come is because he is into the female friend, and that the "group" supposedly coming was not actually gonna materialize.
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I just found out there wasn't a group of other people there, it was just another female friend that I've met before. So him, and the 2 female friends. I still don't know why he wouldn't want me there though :/
I just found out there wasn't a group of other people there, it was just another female friend that I've met before. So him, and the 2 female friends. I still don't know why he wouldn't want me there though :/
I'm sorry to tell you this, but his comment about "no independence" "forever" and his actions indicate that this relationship is on it's last legs. He didn't want you there because he's mentally preparing to move on from you. He's just not had the guts to do it yet.
Sometimes when someone is "weak" they'll manipulate situations or treat you poorly so that you are the one breaking up. Then he can feel like a "good" guy still.
He's said what he wants now without saying it directly. Don't contact him and see what happens.
BTW--who initiated the conversations about possibly moving in together?
The first thing you need to do is get your own place, cause, you know, you need some independence. If you already have your own place, boot him to the curb, for the same reason. Then, make a date with one or more guy friends that don't mind your company.
I just found out there wasn't a group of other people there, it was just another female friend that I've met before. So him, and the 2 female friends. I still don't know why he wouldn't want me there though :/
I think you should let it go. My parents always had their "together" friends, and their "independent" friends. This made for a very healthy marriage because they had independent lives within the marriage. Be thankful that he has a couple of female friends to give him good advice on how to be a good guy.
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