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I'm just saying if ones ego is inflated it might make her even more picky then need be..
There's nothing wrong with that to each his own..I just find it interesting your advice for men has been along the lines of be into and if not find a way to get attracted to the the women who are into you..don't overrate yourselves and try to go after more attractive women..
With women it's more shoot for the stars and don't settle for guys you aren't fully attracted to..
What do you mean, "than need be"?
Look around you next time you take a walk in any town or city. Of the couples you see, how much more gorgeous and fantastic are the men than the women? It's all these GQ guys with awful, dumpy women or something? Get real. I mean seriously. Come down to earth here.
Obviously, totally sub-par (by whatever standards) women snapping up Henry Cavills left and right is not overall a problem. Seriously, open your eyes and just look around you. It's a non-issue...FB "likes" or not.
"Shoot for the stars"...how silly. Probably, this isn't the way you're thinking of it. When we women say that to each other we're not talking about Ryan Gosling or whomever. We're speaking of other things...to give examples (these will vary), a serious-minded (relationships-wise), very loyal dude with a career (just like we probably have...that's WHY such a similarity may be important), or perhaps he should be bright...or funny...usually no more so than we are. What we want when shooting for the stars is someone like us overall. Not a carbon copy but all the basics matching our own ideals...the ones we ourselves uphold. And yeah, the physical too...but not "top 10". SILLY. Again...look around you.
I get this and if it weren't constantly couched with an accusatory bent toward women I'd be more inclined to be softer about it.
It is SO OFTEN (here) surrounded in the center of: this is why women don't have to lift a finger...this is why sub-par women have huge egos...oh, we feel bad for the women too, don't get us wrong, we just hurt so much inside that one day these women will be OLD and used-up (like...30+) with nobody wanting them (ooo...secret deliciousness...oh sweet sweet karma), and fat, eew, with dead eggs and then they're just grabbing any idiot to be a beta provider...blah, blah, blah.
I mean if this secret plea is "dear ego-driven, shallow upper tier-of-men-grabbing, beta-using, getting older very minute, feminist ho women, please just give us a little understanding" I am nowhere near enough of a karmic advanced soul to reach the other end of that olive branch, which apparently has mace spikes on it and is dripping in poison.
Sorry, hom. You are a nice person and a true humanitarian, you stand above the rest in so many ways but you're way more accepting than I on this issue because I'm one of the (constantly) accused.
Yeah, until this forum, I never realized I had it so easy. If only I'd known back in the day, that I had all the power.
You know, in a ideal world, we'd all be married and have children by our early 30's. It just doesn't work that way. I still may start a family, and I'm 49. I just met a 42 year old woman who has no kids and we want the same thing. I had no control over the fact I couldn't meet the right woman when I was in my early 30's (met and married the wrong one, and had no kids), but now I can potentially have that family. I'm healthy and there are no guarantees in life. I refuse to believe I'm too old to start a family, at least for now.
It sure doesn't always work out that one is married by one's 30s, no. The push-back here was some commentary about how men overall apparently just aren't compelled to get married until their 40s, or even their 50s. You yourself show the exact opposite when you've explained here how many years you've actively been attempting to find someone to marry and have children with.
Generally, dating does favor women because women get to enjoy a potential man catering to them to see if he'll be chosen as her future fiancée/husband.
Some women may get alot more attention/date offers, but they have to weed through all the men that are not interested in a real relationship. Alot of those men/offers, are men just looking for sex.
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I mean seriously. Come down to earth here.
