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Guys, this is why it's a mistake to remain a virgin until past the age of about 20. People will always wonder about the reason, and whether you are even interested in sex and intimacy.
Men who lose their virginity in their 20s, in particular, seemed to be more likely to experience sexual problems that include difficulty becoming sexually aroused and reaching orgasm.
Whatever it takes, with whoever you can, get some experience sharing your body with someone else. 20 more years of fear and porn is going to ruin your ability to act normally and naturally in intimate situations.
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Originally Posted by zentropa
Whatever it takes, with whoever you can, get some experience sharing your body with someone else. 20 more years of fear and porn is going to ruin your ability to act normally and naturally in intimate situations.
I really don't know how people avoid sex beyond then. I was overweight, pimply, dorky and depressed and I still had sex.
Why would an experienced women waste time with me like you said at this age women have 95 percent experienced men to choose from?
Why dont you just go see an escort and get it over with. 40 year old virgins make such a big deal about it, that it really makes sex or woman wanting you sexually, an impossibility. Its really not such a big deal and considering you wont get experienced overnight, just roll with it. With time, as you become more comfortable with sex, you will seem experienced too. Just dont go out of your way to announce it to the world, its really not all that important.
Why would an experienced women waste time with me like you said at this age women have 95 percent experienced men to choose from?
You're putting way to much emphasis on sex. I can't speak for all women ( but I suspect it's true for the majority) I tend to lead with my heart rather than my genitals. Being a good and caring guy will go a long way in negating your lack of sexual experience.... with me. If I met a guy that I really liked I'd have no issue letting him fumble through sex with me. A man's prior sexual experience isn't at that top of my list of things that make him attractive.
Wanting a virgin because you're afraid that an experienced woman ( rather than for religious or moral reasons) would find you lacking or weird really cuts down on your prospects.... You're making a mountain out of a mole hill. Win my heart and my body will follow. That being said... there are tons of experienced people both male and female who STILL ... Suck at sex. Experience isn't the end all when it comes to sex and relationships.
I have said it a million times before. The truth is, the issue isn't the virginity. It's what happened in that guy's life or in his head that retarded his natural urges to such an extent that he was unable to consummate them by the age 95% of others do. And how will that problem affect his ability to form a healthy relationship?
I didn't know asking for a women to be a virgin is asking alot and I have put myself out there and I found that experienced women want experienced men, nothings unfair about that.
I had a friend who wanted to remain a virgin until marriage but decided that if she wasn't married by 40 she would ask her close guy friend to relieve her of her virginity, and that's what she did.
The guy actually wanted to marry her but he drank too much and was always broke, so she wisely said no. She did marry eventually, at 47.
Personally, if I were your age and looking, it would bother me much less if a guy were a virgin than would the fact that he thinks "alot" is a word. That's just me.
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Experience isn't the end all when it comes to sex and relationships.
That's just me.