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If you're doing online dating, I've found phone calls can be a good way to gauge basic interaction and chemistry. It's certainly not a tell-all, but it can help further formulate your mental image of who you've been talking to.
The BEST way to lose the mental picture and see the real person is... see the real person.
I prefer not to hand out my phone number until after seeing someone in person for the first time. If nothing clicks in person, then there's no need.
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Originally Posted by srschirm
True, but the phone call can help you decide if you want to meet the person to begin with.
The problem is, loads of really great conversationalists go completely mute on the phone. I've experienced that a lot. They hate the phone and clam up or are abrupt on it.
And on the other side, there are people that are super gregarious on the phone, but quite and turtle in person.
I've found very little correspondence between phone chemistry and real life chemistry, personally.
I am on the fence about this. I met a guy while out and about a few days ago. He started talking to me and we hit it off. I could tell he was interested but a bit shy so I offered him my number, which he gladly accepted.
He texted me saying he wants to go out and that he wants to talk more once we go out. One of my best friends says it's a bad sign and that he should be calling. Normally I would agree with her but he and I just met. Even talking over text, he's been very respectful, gentlemanly, polite. Given that we haven't had our first date yet, I didn't want to start laying down demands over him calling. Since he strikes me as shy, texting is probably most comfortble for him right now.
Since he wants us to talk in depth in person, I am ok with texting for now. I am not interpreting it as a lack of genuine interest.
I guess it depends on the situation. If I met him online, I would definitely prefer a phone call. But since we met in person from the start, had the opportunity to talk face-to-face already, and a certain level of interest and attraction has already been established, I don't feel bad about him texting, especially because he wants to make plans with me. The only hold up is that I have a crazy work schedule that makes it hard for me to plan things within a few days, which I let him know.
Yes, and definitely yes!
Phone calls are essential in a relationship. As another poster said, texting is impersonal, even though I text at times, but I do speak on the phone. You should hear their voice, and they yours.
Maybe I'm old fashioned but I like talking in person.... I'll take a phone call as a substitute.
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