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Old 02-04-2018, 10:13 PM
 
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Rhetorical question:

Was chatting with a guy, 40 years old, single no kids, decent job, never been in a relationship longer than a couple of months. Nothing special looks-wise, doesn't seem to be a player either. Didn't strike me as someone who has an endless stream of women willing to have no-strings sex with.

How does sex work in this context? To me, seems like, as a young man, he has been either:
a. "hiring" women
b. has had someone steady on the side to have sex with outside of relationship
c. low sex drive

This is probably wrong and/or simplistic... But I can't help but wonder

Thoughts?
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Old 02-04-2018, 10:15 PM
 
Location: Jacksonville
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Maybe he just hasn't been having it?
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Old 02-04-2018, 10:18 PM
 
Location: Brentwood, Tennessee
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I agree with this part:

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This is probably wrong and/or simplistic...
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Maybe he just hasn't been having it?
Yep.
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Old 02-04-2018, 10:23 PM
 
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why do you need a relationship to have sex?
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Old 02-04-2018, 10:25 PM
 
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why do you need a relationship to have sex?

I'll answer with a question: is it that easy to find a new woman every couple months to have casual sex with?
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Old 02-04-2018, 10:28 PM
 
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I'll answer with a question: is it that easy to find a new woman every couple months to have casual sex with?
yes... stop playing on the Internet and go outside
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Old 02-04-2018, 10:30 PM
 
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Are women so indiscriminate these days that they are willing to jump in bed with just about anyone? Wow.
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Old 02-04-2018, 10:33 PM
 
Location: Los Angeles
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Rhetorical question:

Was chatting with a guy, 40 years old, single no kids, decent job, never been in a relationship longer than a couple of months. Nothing special looks-wise, doesn't seem to be a player either. Didn't strike me as someone who has an endless stream of women willing to have no-strings sex with.

How does sex work in this context? To me, seems like, as a young man, he has been either:
a. "hiring" women
b. has had someone steady on the side to have sex with outside of relationship
c. low sex drive

This is probably wrong and/or simplistic... But I can't help but wonder

Thoughts?


Hookers.

Abstinence.

Side piece.

Mod cut. (if he can at least talk to chicks but doesn't forge a connection, and then feels awkward about it and doesn't contact them again).

There are also lots of men who don't identify as gay but have anonymous sexual encounters with other men. Think of the Larry Craig airport incident. Or other similar incidents to hit the press over the years. There is a whole wide world of this behavior that exists within your world, perhaps as near as the closest public restroom.

Maybe all of the above at one time or another.

Last edited by PJSaturn; 02-05-2018 at 09:59 AM.. Reason: Vulgar language.
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Old 02-04-2018, 10:35 PM
 
Location: Los Angeles
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Are women so indiscriminate these days that they are willing to jump in bed with just about anyone? Wow.
7 billion people on this planet last time I counted which amounts to around 7 billion stories. Unless the whole point of this thread to get in a cheap shot at women in general.
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Old 02-04-2018, 10:36 PM
 
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Plenty of single people go without sex for long periods of time. The average man has just 6-8 partners in a lifetime, women 4-6. Make of that what you will.
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