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I have lived with a wide range of cleanliness and lack thereof. I lived with a Great Aunt, who was a perfectionist about every little bit of her home. I adored her, and did my best to live up to her standards. Eventually, many years later, she got dementia and had to be put into a home, and I had to go to her condo, and pack up family heirlooms, as the rest would be auctioned and the place sold. I arrived (had to fly in from out of state) and went first to the condo...when I saw that there were cobwebs and dust in the bathroom, and a dead beetle or fly here or there, a bit of stain on the carpet...it hit me so hard that the shell of her home was empty of her, and I lost it and just cried and cried. I did not have to, but I took the time during my trip, to clean that place top to bottom. Because she would have wanted it that way.
Then the years with my ex, who was a hoarder and a slob. We are not just talking bodily functions here, like the farting, or the condition of his underpants, or even the wiping of snot on sleeves... He would take food into the bedroom, sit there eating on the edge of the bed, and wipe his greasy, filthy food covered hands on the comforter. And leave perishable food sitting on the floor by the bed overnight, if I didn't find it first, and then put it back in the fridge the next day. Drink straight out of containers that other people expected to be able to share, like 2 liters of soda or the jug of OJ, and put it back in the fridge. The man was nasty. On top of being emotionally abusive. "But you never made me feel WANNNNTEDDD..." Yeah, maybe try being the sort of human another person would...uh...want? Jeez.
Left to my own devices, I'm in a middle ground. I do the dishes, scoop the litterbox, and make my bed daily. First thing every morning. But I don't always keep up with the vacuuming, and I might go a very long time without dusting or washing windows. Bathrooms...well, I try not to let them get too bad, but that's the one chore I HATE, so sometimes I don't clean them as often as I should. I don't like clutter. I like all of my things to have a place that they belong, and to be in their spot. I will notice if anyone moves anything.
I know a couple who got divorced after over a decade of marriage, and it was resulting in one person being a little more "gross" in their habits than the other.
Personally I find cleanliness to be of major importance.
I think it depends. Hygienically, yes, but being messy is different than being dirty.
I feel like my DH and I are in agreement on keeping the house clean. We both help in that matter, but I do more as I only work part time. Now that my children are getting older they help too. As far as personal hygiene goes, I would think one would know pretty early on if their significant other was not cleanly. To me, that would be a deal breaker! Even my 12 yr old knows to wear deodorant!
People tend to neaten up the older they get. Once you own your own home, and especially after having kids. Something about having babies and toddlers around makes you much more conscious about dirt and germs. Later when they are teens and your house is constantly cluttered, you are relieved to become a neat freak when they finally leave for college.
This is true especially about older DD. When she lived at home she was a total slob. I relayed a story on the pet forum about how our cat used to leave her presents of dead mice on her bedroom carpet. She'd throw her clothes all over the floor, not noticing the mice until they started to smell bad. And leave a dozen dirty glasses on the dresser and desk. Her bed was NEVER made. She used to let her guinea pig sit on the table and eat from her dinner plate.
Now that she has a house of her own, she's a fuss budget about keeping everything spotless. All toys have to be picked up before bedtime. No dirty dishes in the sink EVER. Bed linens changed EVERY Friday...no exceptions. Oldest grandson has to make his bed right after getting up. No food or drinks in the bedrooms (I do sneak my coffee in the guest room before she wakes up). Sunday is a top to bottom cleaning marathon...every room dusted and vacuumed, and all the bathrooms cleaned.
When I babysit the grandsons, 5:00 is "Clean Up Time", before supper and bath. We NEED that whole hour to clean up. DD gets home about 7:00. That means pick up the toys, clean up the kitchen, destroy all the evidence. DD has a rule about no more than one bin of toys out at a time...but on a typical day I babysit, we'll have a Lincoln Log village, 3 train sets, and a Duplo town taking up the whole living room. Her DH gets home a lot earlier, but he doesn't care about the mess...as long as it's cleaned up before DD gets home.
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I clip my husband's toe nails. LOL I don't LIKE doing it, but he asks me to. He has thick gnarly toe nails that sometimes he can't get a good angle on...so I do it. When he asks.
He farts out loud, but says excuse me. LOL (I fart silently, and hope he doesn't notice.)
The toilet seat is always up until I close it.
I suppose we are a kind of gross couple...I clip my toe nails in the family room. Sometimes, I lick my glasses to clean them. LOL
MY husband leaves tissues all over the house. Sometimes one of the dogs likes to eat his tissues, and then we have TORN tissues all over the house. He also leaves his tissues in his pockets, that go through the wash.
How does a couple looking at someone else's property express very gross behavior? My imagination falls short in trying to envision this scenario.
I had someone use the bathroom in a rental I had vacant. They never flushed. It was a ball of fun walking in that a few days later while I was there to do something.
I had someone use the bathroom in a rental I had vacant. They never flushed. It was a ball of fun walking in that a few days later while I was there to do something.
Yeah walked in and the first thought was wtf is that smell. I thought the water in the P TRAPS evaporated and I was getting sewer gas in the house. I couldn’t believe it. But hey the agent was nice enough and left her card on the counter.
The clients were looking to move in the place in some ridiculously short time. I think they wanted to move in 3 days time. I declined as I couldn’t mee5 that deadline nor would I want to.
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