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Old 02-18-2018, 04:37 PM
 
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I went out with this girl for the first time who said she was really shy, yet on out date she didn't seem that way at all. She was very talkative. I guess this was a good sign because she was eager to go out again, but I always thought shy girls were even more shy around guys they liked. So what's up with this?
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Old 02-18-2018, 04:42 PM
 
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Assuming she doesn't have some reason to say she is shy when she truly isn't, I would guess that you made her feel very comfortable in a short time.

Shy people come out of their shell rather quickly once they get a chance to get to know you and warm up to you.

Grats on scoring the second date.
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Old 02-18-2018, 05:13 PM
 
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If a shy person is comfortable around and trusts you they'll come out of their shell fast.

Take it as a compliment.
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Old 02-18-2018, 05:27 PM
 
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I went out with this girl for the first time who said she was really shy, yet on out date she didn't seem that way at all. She was very talkative. I guess this was a good sign because she was eager to go out again, but I always thought shy girls were even more shy around guys they liked. So what's up with this?
Sometimes people chatter to hide their discomfort and to avoid gaps in conversation.
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Old 02-18-2018, 05:31 PM
 
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Shy people tend to get more talkative when in small groups, or one on one.
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Old 02-18-2018, 06:04 PM
 
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I went out with this girl for the first time who said she was really shy, yet on out date she didn't seem that way at all. She was very talkative. I guess this was a good sign because she was eager to go out again, but I always thought shy girls were even more shy around guys they liked. So what's up with this?
So, wait...it sounds like you're wishing she'd been shy and awkward on the date, because it would indicate she really liked you? And you're worried that being talkative means she wasn't that into you?


People! Just chill. Stop trying to read the tea leaves, and just take things at face value. Did you enjoy the date, OP? If yes, why are you over-analyzing? You said she enjoyed herself, too. So it was a win-win, right?
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Old 02-18-2018, 06:13 PM
 
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She was comfortable. Also, I consider myself incredibly shy but one on one, I pretty much never shut up.

Ask her out on a second date!!
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Old 02-18-2018, 08:36 PM
 
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I'm shy and have sort of a stranger anxiety. But when I go on dates I talk more than I normally do to cover my uncomfortableness.
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Old 02-18-2018, 10:39 PM
 
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I'm pretty ******* shy, pardon my French, so when I do find someone who I connect with, I will be much more relaxed and talkative. It doesn't happen very often. It's a relief when it does.
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Old 02-19-2018, 07:44 AM
 
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I went out with this girl for the first time who said she was really shy, yet on out date she didn't seem that way at all. She was very talkative. I guess this was a good sign because she was eager to go out again, but I always thought shy girls were even more shy around guys they liked. So what's up with this?
I find that shyness isn't as predictable as we like to believe. Some shy people become comfortable. Then in other cases, shy people out on a date try to compensate and hide their shyness so that they can "impress" their date.
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