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My future wife, fiancee now obviously, is adamant about getting onto our own family plan instead of sharing one with my mom and sister.
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What are your thoughts on this issue? I don't think I have any options at this point but wondered if I am weird for wanting to remain on the plan.
The weird in this relationship is not you, I assure you.
Turn around and run, do not walk, for the nearest exit. This is a clue to future behaviour that will drive a wedge between you and your family forever (For certain values of 'forever' that will end with a divorce or worse which may involve an appearance on the Dr Phil show.)
My future wife, fiancee now obviously, is adamant about getting onto our own family plan instead of sharing one with my mom and sister.
I have always shared the family plan with my mom and sister since I was a teenager and the deal is good enough that I don't want to switch off. I did the math and for us to both move onto our own plan it would cost approximately $60/month extra for the same unlimited deal. Levels of scope drives the cost down obviously.
My dear fiancee says the reason is because we are our own unit and should be that way, however I can't get over the extra cost for what is essentially a piece of paper that lists our names versus listing my other family members. Another hesitation for me is that my sister and mother would also have to pay more should I move off.
What are your thoughts on this issue? I don't think I have any options at this point but wondered if I am weird for wanting to remain on the plan.
I'm with her. I'm as frugal as the next guy, but quit being a cheapskate and cut the apron strings already.
There is absolutely no way I'd enter into that arrangement with my in-laws. My FIL is not only notoriously cheap, but he likes to get into the middle of everyone else's business. The last thing I'd freaking want is to have him poring over my phone charges. He's a big enough A-hole already.
My future wife, fiancee now obviously, is adamant about getting onto our own family plan instead of sharing one with my mom and sister.
I have always shared the family plan with my mom and sister since I was a teenager and the deal is good enough that I don't want to switch off. I did the math and for us to both move onto our own plan it would cost approximately $60/month extra for the same unlimited deal. Levels of scope drives the cost down obviously.
My dear fiancee says the reason is because we are our own unit and should be that way, however I can't get over the extra cost for what is essentially a piece of paper that lists our names versus listing my other family members. Another hesitation for me is that my sister and mother would also have to pay more should I move off.
What are your thoughts on this issue? I don't think I have any options at this point but wondered if I am weird for wanting to remain on the plan.
I’m sorry but wtf are we 15? Your fiancé is your “family” now unless you just put a ring for some zing.
I wouldn't feel comfortable if my MIL had access to my phone records. I could just see it, "Hey Mr Book Lover, did you know Mrs Book Lover was on the phone with someone for 32 minutes on Thursday night?"
If one shares these plans...does that mean you will be able to see the phone numbers that others have called?Is there any sort of privacy with these family plans?
I was also wondering if she might be concerned over others having access to her call records and data usage.
I find financial responsibility and prudence to be attractive, though.
Other people might not care.
I do too, actually. I know women like it when men spend money on them but when men spend money on me that doesn't seem necessary, all I can think of is, he could probably be investing that money lol. Not that I don't think I'm worth it, but being financially responsible is very attractive to me.
I wouldn't feel comfortable if my MIL had access to my phone records. I could just see it, "Hey Mr Book Lover, did you know Mrs Book Lover was on the phone with someone for 32 minutes on Thursday night?"
Oh heck no.
Op offered to have whole account changed to his name (he could get the bill, no one else has to snoop, etc).
I mean...I can't imagine my parents snooping on my phone bill (they actually don't have a cell service) or my even caring if they did.
It's just weird. It's a cell phone plan. They're not living together or taking communal showers or anything. Heck, I even know people who aren't on their spouse's health care plan because it makes more financial sense for them to do it differently.
You don't find cohesion, closeness, and intimacy in your relationship from your bills.
I wonder if they fiancee wants them to be on a family plan so she can snoop on the future husband.
It would help if the op just answered the question someone asked on page one about what the fiancee said the reason was.
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