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Maybe she just really likes you and she's excited about seeing you again? I mean, would that be such a bad thing if you were someone that she got excited about spending time with?
And OP could actually tell her that he's not a big texter, so she shouldn't expect an immediate response.
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Originally Posted by JerZ
Huh? You just said a guy will "put up with" crazy and clingy if she's hot.
So apparently...it IS that hard.
'Cause he won't put up with crazy and clingy. Well...until he will.
Except he'll complain about it on a message board because duh! Crazy and clingy are just wrong.
So it's bad! But it's good. Or...neutral. JUST the hot part is good...? But....no wait. It is a +1. Or not...it could be either a +3 or +4 but that is weighed against the negatives but maybe 3 negatives could be offset by hot if hot in this case equals +4, making it outweigh the negatives by 1?
Or something.
Yeah. Seems it IS "that hard."
Do what you want, OP.
Okay, this made no sense and I’m not interested in even attempting to interpret it. But dig at me all you want.
I did! Its not just the texting frequency though that raised a flag.
If there are all these red flags why are you considering her????
Oh yeah, because she is hot...
We are right back to square one. You are THIS concerned. Enough to post the situation on a message board and worry it to death. BUT you're not just ditching.
If what you want is for all of us to tell you is that this is all fine, stop feeling the way you feel (obviously pretty concerned) and somehow she will morph into a different, non-texting personality so that you can have the hot body....except with a personality that is not actually her, no, we can't do it.
You know there are red flags, you are trying to rationalize and somehow drum up support to stay despite them, and you will get what you get. You know you can't get assurances, based on what you have written. I'm sorry. Whatever happens from here, given the fact that you are already alarmed after just two dates but are clinging to "well but...she looks good," is on you. Own it; good luck.
If there are all these red flags why are you considering her????
Oh yeah, because she is hot...
We are right back to square one. You are THIS concerned. Enough to post the situation on a message board and worry it to death. BUT you're not just ditching.
If what you want is for all of us to tell you is that this is all fine, stop feeling the way you feel (obviously pretty concerned) and somehow she will morph into a different, non-texting personality so that you can have the hot body....except with a personality that is not actually her, no, we can't do it.
You know there are red flags, you are trying to rationalize and somehow drum up support to stay despite them, and you will get what you get. You know you can't get assurances, based on what you have written. I'm sorry. Whatever happens from here, given the fact that you are already alarmed after just two dates but are clinging to "well but...she looks good," is on you. Own it; good luck.
You seem offended and mad. I figure I should at least sleep with her before dumping her, don't you think?
You seem offended and mad. I figure I should at least sleep with her before dumping her, don't you think?
I'm not mad, but you don't seem to be understanding, so I am laying it on the line.
"Should" you sleep with her and then dump her? That is an odd question.
Why would you ask total strangers this question? Why are you asking us to direct every stage of your relationship? I will be honest, no adult should need to ask for literally every step this way. I will repeat: these decisions are yours. Own them. Whatever happens is on you. Because this is your choice and your relationship. You already know you are nervous about all this. It is not "should" you do X or Y. It is: will you, as a grownup, decide to do X or Y, with the full knowledge that something might he pretty wrong here.
This is up to you. It truly is. We can't tell you: okay, tell her this, see how she responds, then sleep with her, then do this...you're an adult. Make the decisions.
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