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Tell her you aren’t a big texter. Why these women love to text so much is beyond me. It’s annoying and disruptive. Nothing worse than getting texts and then she gets her feelings hurt if you don’t respond right back. Tell her if she wants to be this invasive then you will need to cut her loose.
You seem offended and mad. I figure I should at least sleep with her before dumping her, don't you think?
LOL. Okay.
But you already worry she goes nuts on you so don't you think she'll go even more bat**** crazy after you sleep with her? At least do it at her house, so she won't know where you live and you can just leave after. USE PROTECTION.
My take: If you were really into her, you would be looking forward to every text. Be a nice guy and tell her this isn't working out and block her number.
I'm not mad, but you don't seem to be understanding, so I am laying it on the line.
"Should" you sleep with her and then dump her? That is an odd question.
Why would you ask total strangers this question? Why are you asking us to direct every stage of your relationship? I will be honest, no adult should need to ask for literally every step this way. I will repeat: these decisions are yours. Own them. Whatever happens is on you. Because this is your choice and your relationship. You already know you are nervous about all this. It is not "should" you do X or Y. It is: will you, as a grownup, decide to do X or Y, with the full knowledge that something might he pretty wrong here.
This is up to you. It truly is. We can't tell you: okay, tell her this, see how she responds, then sleep with her, then do this...you're an adult. Make the decisions.
I was just trying to get a rise out of you, but you didn't catch the sarcasm. I'm not going to sleep with her and dump her.
I was just trying to get a rise out of you, but you didn't catch the sarcasm. I'm not going to sleep with her and dump her.
Let's be real here: there was no way to detect that you weren't seriously asking that, since you ARE seriously asking whether you should be concerned about a girl you literally think may "turn psycho."
Sarcasm is an art. It doesn't work well for everybody and to get it across in writing is even tougher.
You know it's funny, I'm in the exact same situation. I'm seeing this guy who really doesn't know a whole lot about me, but is already telling me he's falling in love with me, gets upset when I don't text back right away, thinks I'm seeing other guys, and just an all around WALKING RED FLAG.
You know it's funny, I'm in the exact same situation. I'm seeing this guy who really doesn't know a whole lot about me, but is already telling me he's falling in love with me, gets upset when I don't text back right away, thinks I'm seeing other guys, and just an all around WALKING RED FLAG.
So why have I stuck around?
Sex.
I've come to think sex turns people into idiots.
For me, sex is a bonding experience. So, yeah, it does tend to make me stupid. So I wait as long as possible, until the brain says it's okay to let the lady bits have their say. Not forever, but at least a few dates.
I run from love-bombing now, before it ever gets to the bedroom. Because oxytocin.
For me, sex is a bonding experience. So, yeah, it does tend to make me stupid. So I wait as long as possible, until the brain says it's okay to let the lady bits have their say. Not forever, but at least a few dates.
I run from love-bombing now, before it ever gets to the bedroom. Because oxytocin.
This right here is taking responsibility and owning it. ^
If you understand that you're influenced by something physical over a host of red flags, then going forward or not are equally on you (not "you" as in Ann specifically above, but anybody).
Yes, we have hormones. Yes, we have drives. But we ALSO have intelligence of a specific type (to varying degrees, but a specific type) that we NEED to utilize as a social species. In less social species, or species where the father will not stay around (female/male are separated after sex and do not stay together during the rearing of the young), doing it and running are perfectly fine, and normal. But as a social/family/bonding species we can't just take "physical genes look good, but crazy" as our go-to option because the crazy isn't necessarily leaving after the sex act. It may just be sticking around.
The more social the species (and we are extraordinarily social - even our self-proclaimed "introverts" are right here on the internet, actively contacting hundreds or thousands of people at a time), the more the way the opposite sex acts and seems, comes into play, v. just the physical.
Yeah, no you are all just airheads. I had let go of all of that when I decided to find someone online in dating sites. MY husband actually ghosted me for a week. When we were dating, can you believe that? He actually got snippy at me when I message him first. I usually don't message first but that 1 time I message him first he was like, not now, I was like OK. LOL. WTF.
If I was still proud like most of my life. I would not have been married by now. But well like I said, that's why you all are single.
He was very rude and snippy early on. And you had to swallow your pride. But hey, you get to tell people you're married, and that's all that matters for a most of you married people.
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