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Just wondering. Seems like a lot of fat dudes are marr d, but they were skinny before they ti d the knot.
I gained a bunch of weight from medication. Really don't feel like going through relative hell with gymig it hard and diet to drop it. Am I protect by the anti-aging shaming movement ????
Just wondering. Seems like a lot of fat dudes are marr d, but they were skinny before they ti d the knot.
I gained a bunch of weight from medication. Really don't feel like going through relative hell with gymig it hard and diet to drop it. Am I protect by the anti-aging shaming movement ????
Just wondering. Seems like a lot of fat dudes are marr d, but they were skinny before they ti d the knot.
I gained a bunch of weight from medication. Really don't feel like going through relative hell with gymig it hard and diet to drop it. Am I protect by the anti-aging shaming movement ????
I guess they must. Coming up on 75% of the U.S. adult population is overweight, slightly more men than women. A bunch of these adults aren't married and are probably dating.
I don't know that I'd date someone who gained, even from medication, but didn't "feel" like doing anything about it. It's that latter part of the attitude that would be unattractive to me. But some women would, so, this being Friday...go out there and get that date!
Yeah, most people are overweight, but the degree of overweight might make a difference. Are we talking soft around the middle, or someone who looks (and waddles) like he's 9 months pregnant?
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I don't know that I'd date someone who gained, even from medication, but didn't "feel" like doing anything about it. It's that latter part of the attitude that would be unattractive to me. But some women would, so, this being Friday...go out there and get that date!
This is the turn off. People that have this mindset are a turnoff.
Everyone, if medically able, should be working out regularly (personally, I don't get single dudes that are exercising at least 5-6x a week).
Just wondering. Seems like a lot of fat dudes are marr d, but they were skinny before they ti d the knot.
I gained a bunch of weight from medication. Really don't feel like going through relative hell with gymig it hard and diet to drop it. Am I protect by the anti-aging shaming movement ????
Fat guys who do have something to offer, some kind of cachet, like--a great personality, or outstanding musicianship, get a lot of attention. If you're just an average fat guy with a bland personality, though, you won't have women flocking to you.
It's not that hard to lose weight, if you find the right diet. Low carb, and building lean muscle mass at the gym and consuming extra protein to support that, is the way to go. See the Diet & Weight Loss sub-forum under "Health", to ask about the details. Seriously, OP--it's not that hard, once you pull together your resolve. Some people get great results with Weight Watchers, which provides a lot of support to the morale, through their meetings, and isn't quite as radical as a straight low-carb approach.
I know an ugly fat guy who has been married 7 times. He also went to jail for robbing a bank. I had to talk my attractive older friend out of dating him. Her reason? "But he's so FUNNY! And so NICE!" Oy gevalt.
The 800 lbs guy from that 600 lbs reality show just died. He was engaged. His fiance is ugly as hell but hey, just lower your standars as your weight goes up.
The 800 lbs guy from that 600 lbs reality show just died. He was engaged. His fiance is ugly as hell but hey, just lower your standars as your weight goes up.
That was sad. They seemed like a true love match. Everything went downhill when he couldn't get his painkillers anymore. He was obviously depressed as he was on two RX antidepressants plus Melatonin. But until then, the level of love was tremendous.
He wasn't 800 lbs. when they met but he did exceed 500 lbs., IIRC.
She said she loved him because he was funny and kind and he loved to go out and do things. He wasn't dependent on her in the beginning. He was entirely self-caring and had a job. I think they said he had been a telemarketer.
However (yes, I'm addicted to the show, LOL) the overwhelming part of the time, when people THAT big (and dependant, that's probably even the more important factor) find partners at their size, the person who "loves" them is living off their SSI, and/or are "paid" to be "caretakers" (by the government...I think?), or have some pretty obvious delays/disabilities in certain key ways. It's not really the norm for a gigantic, entirely dependent person to be loved romantically. Even when that does appear to be the case (romance/attraction) you will see the spouses fairly frequently freaking out when the previously very very overweight person loses weight. Because they obviously chose the overweight and disabled person because s/he "was going to stick around" no matter what, but now that s/he can get out and about and may be attracted to other people, s/he might leave. That's actually really common (that POV) and it is extreme, extreme insecurity that causes the non-morbidly obese spouse to pick out a disabled (due to extreme size) person.
I doubt the OP weighs 800, 600 or 500 lbs., though. If by "fat" he means the average guy, who is...well, fat, then yes, you see such men with women. And yes, of course they bring something else to the table. FEW people in life, male or female, literally just stand there, do nothing, say nothing, have no personality, don't give AF and have others flock to them. Few, and it's always temporary because it's generally based almost entirely on looks, which can and do fall.
As for the "has to be rich" thing, boyfriend please.
Look at the majority of the nation, including marrieds, and you tell me.
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