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The relationship is very much convenient at this time. I'm a professional woman and do well for myself, but he definitely earns much more than I do and is very generous. He pays all of our household expenses and buys me a lot of nice things.
Sometimes when I want something, I'll just leave open the web page with the items in the bag. Within a few days, usually those items appear.
If he didn't love me, I seriously doubt that he would be working so hard to please me.
Wow, this sucks. I'm not even going to waste any more time on this thread.
You're a liar and a user. Time to get right within.
Being with him without being in love with him IS cruel. You are lying every day you live with him.
Unless you have a previously discussed understanding where you are just together for companionship and affection, etc, you are deceiving him.
If you are afraid to be alone or whatever it is that keeps you with him, you need to work on that. You don't use him as a way to ignore your problems.
The relationship is very comforting at this time and I don't plan to end it just yet. I am not ready. I do like him and would like to keep him as a friend, if possible.
I wish it wasn't true, but well, it is my life at this time. You state that you feel bad for him, but do you feel any sympathy for me?
Sympathy??? NOPE!! Distain" YES!! If you are such a successful professional person then why do what you are to this an honest/innocent male friend??
Don't make your problems HIS.. It appears it's NOT him but you! Why would you EVER accept moving in with him IF you aren't really in to him as a "Soul Mate" ??
I actually worry about your future.. IF you want a " Bad Boy" then why use someone who treats you well?
Again~ Sympathy for you.. GMAFB
I agree with previous poster who suggested "Troll"..because no one would actually have the NERVE to seek sympathy for what situation you set yourself and an innocent " Nice guy" and admit false pretences!!
Why would you be so unkind to someone who cares about you?
I know, right? She sounds like she is just using him for a get-over until something better comes along. Its a dangerous game to play with some people.
I feel sorry for this guy. OP, try to keep in mind, what goes around, comes around. Don't be surprised if that guy you leave him for turns out to be just like you.
I don't believe he knows how I feel about him. He just thinks I'm a bit introverted and believes this is why I am sometimes distant. I am definitely introverted, but it's also true that I'm distant not because of my introversion, but because I am not in love with him and don't really want to be with him long-term.
The relationship is very much convenient at this time. I'm a professional woman and do well for myself, but he definitely earns much more than I do and is very generous. He pays all of our household expenses and buys me a lot of nice things.
Sometimes when I want something, I'll just leave open the web page with the items in the bag. Within a few days, usually those items appear.
If he didn't love me, I seriously doubt that he would be working so hard to please me.
You need to stop treating him as a bank with unlimited funds and tell him the truth about how you REALLY feel about him.
You state that you feel bad for him, but do you feel any sympathy for me?
I do because I was in a relationship like yours for years. I found out that I was not my ex's "type" physically. She was a blue eyed blonde who preferred light skinned black males with muscles (I'm a thin dark skinned black male). Within 3 months of our break up (after 10 years together), she was already "in love with" a light skinned prison guard with lots of muscles. The prison guard dumped her; then all of a sudden she wanted me back. I moved on and I'm quite happy with my wife (who is black by the way).
The irony here is that my ex under-estimated how much she had probably fallen in love with me over the years. She also over-estimated her chances of finding a nice generous guy after kicking me to the curb. So YES, I feel sorry for you. Why? Because your man will figure you out, he will move on to a BEAUTIFUL woman who loves him, and the man of your dreams (the guy you find that you think is "perfect" for you) will most likely treat you like dirt (or at the least, treat you worse than your current man). My ex was cute; I hope you are too. You'll need it....
I do because I was in a relationship like yours for years. I found out that I was not my ex's "type" physically. She was a blue eyed blonde who preferred light skinned black males with muscles (I'm a thin dark skinned black male). Within 3 months of our break up (after 10 years together), she was already "in love with" a light skinned prison guard with lots of muscles. The prison guard dumped her; then all of a sudden she wanted me back. I moved on and I'm quite happy with my wife (who is black by the way).
The irony here is that my ex under-estimated how much she had probably fallen in love with me over the years. She also over-estimated her chances of finding a nice generous guy after kicking me to the curb. So YES, I feel sorry for you. Why? Because your man will figure you out, he will move on to a BEAUTIFUL woman who loves him, and the man of your dreams (the guy you find that you think is "perfect" for you) will most likely treat you like dirt (or at the least, treat you worse than your current man). My ex was cute; I hope you are too. You'll need it....
I am happy that you found happiness.
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