There are seemingly no single women in "my league"

[Jobster]

The bottom line is that you gotta stop being scared around women. If you don't know what to say, best choice is to stay silent. It makes you seem mysterious which is better than saying something stupid that she'll remember you by.

[ClaraC]

Op, this is the exact story of the size 7 shoe in a going out of business sale. There aren't any after the sale has been going on for awhile. Because that's what most women want - a size 7 - and so they're already taken.

Same thing if you don't partner up when most couples are finding each other, and pulling them out of the available dating pool. You arrived late to the game, and the ones everyone else was shopping for are taken.

Keep at it. You sound like a nice guy. And there is that second round, that happens when women are 28-32ish. Their marriage failed quickly and they're back in the dating pool.

[emm74]

Originally Posted by Scrat335

Done is all? I've been in that stiuation before and the truth is I simply forgot to message her back. Too much on the plate. Had she sent a reminder I probably would have found the time to drop a line. Seems to me people just aren't constructive for whatever reasons.

This is a joke, right? Someone is supposed to not just pursue you, they are supposed to keep pursuing you even when you don't bother to respond and it's their fault when they don't?

Nope, doesn't work that way and it doesn't matter whether it's a man or a woman. If someone sends you a message and you aren't interested, you don't respond. Why on earth should they set themselves up to be rejected a second time by "reminding" you that they had contacted you and you weren't interested enough to respond.

As for the original poster, there is a good chance that there is more going on here than your looks. Have you asked people to look over your profile? Is everything spelled correctly with proper grammar? Not doing that is a turn off for a lot of people. How many photos do you have posted? Having too many is a red flag to some people. Are any over the top - shirtless, etc? Also a turn off for many. Too much sexual innuendo? Yeah, we all get it, the idea of dating someone is that there will be some physical intimacy but you don't need to discuss that in your profile. Are you being realistic about geography? Many people don't want the risks and hassles of something long distance, or even in the same metro area but too far apart where it becomes burdensome to try to see each other.

There are many reasons that have nothing to do with "leagues" that make people decide to pass on someone. And there is just the inherent artificiality of online dating in the first place - in person, there can be a spark that overrides everything else, but we have to rely on other factors online.