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A Urologist once told me that a man is physically capable of achieving the same type erection he wakes up with in the morning. Thus if the morning "woody" is sufficient, then achieving and maintaining it during sex is a mental issue. If it is not sufficient, then drugs might be the answer.
I echo was others have said, he needs to stop the blame and shame game and get himself checked out by his doctor. Things happen, including sexually. This "issue" can be fixed and there's no shame in getting a little help. Age has nothing to do with it. Hopefully he's a considerate and ardent lover in other ways. PIV sex isn't the end all be all.
You can date someone and it not be all about sex. That’s not really that important. He probably likes you but maybe that’s just not his thing. Try finding other things to do together. You can be close to someone without sex. I don’t think its bad on you in any way. I don’t think your doing anything wrong.
Sex is whatever but a connection only happens sometimes.
You can date someone and it not be all about sex. That’s not really that important. He probably likes you but maybe that’s just not his thing. Try finding other things to do together. You can be close to someone without sex. I don’t think its bad on you in any way. I don’t think your doing anything wrong.
Sex is whatever but a connection only happens sometimes.
yeah, play some guitar together, who wants to have sex anyway. Totally overrated that stuff.
yeah, play some guitar together, who wants to have sex anyway. Totally overrated that stuff.
Don't you have a FWB or am I totally mistaken?
She does. So?
There IS more to relationships than sex. And I'd hope that problems in that area would not demolish an otherwise wonderful connection if someone is fortunate enough to find that.
At the same time though, she did say that sex is "whatever" and I must say...if the only kind of sex that a person has had is "whatever" sex, then I am so, so sorry. Here is wishing everyone, better-than-whatever sex, whether they can get it up or not.
There IS more to relationships than sex. And I'd hope that problems in that area would not demolish an otherwise wonderful connection if someone is fortunate enough to find that.
At the same time though, she did say that sex is "whatever" and I must say...if the only kind of sex that a person has had is "whatever" sex, then I am so, so sorry. Here is wishing everyone, better-than-whatever sex, whether they can get it up or not.
Well, in this case the otherwise wonderful connection included the SO instructing the OP not to speak of have an orgasm, and telling her his failed erections were her fault.
Who knows what has happened since that time, though. It has been a while since she posted on this thread.
yeah, play some guitar together, who wants to have sex anyway. Totally overrated that stuff.
Don't you have a FWB or am I totally mistaken?
I do but tbh I have never been that into it. I dont see it as the most important thing. Not to get super personal because this topic is for me but I much prefer kissing and other kinds of touching. You can be close to someone without sex. I don't hate it but I don't see the big deal but then again I know that thats just my opinion. With this poster I do see thats its important to her but I dont think she should see it as her being the problem. It's def the guy. I also think that you have to look for other things you both like and have in common It's not all about sex.
Well, in this case the otherwise wonderful connection included the SO instructing the OP not to speak of have an orgasm, and telling her his failed erections were her fault.
Who knows what has happened since that time, though. It has been a while since she posted on this thread.
That's horrible. i didn't read that much into it bc it's a long thread. Well still what I said stands. it's not her fault that this guy can't. He obviously doesnt care about her needs at all and it shouldnt be that way.
I think the defensiveness is because sexual performance seems to hit some men really, really hard. It's a very very sensitive issue.
I believe both men and women are very sensitive to sexual performance issues, not just men. But I do think the balance is different in the way men and women cope/deal with this, although I'm not sure I can put my finger on the differences.
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