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Old 03-06-2018, 07:18 PM
 
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I have a relative who is 39 years old , good job, good salary, average looking but sweet , shy, likes sports and travel, he has never had a real relationship, sometimes hanging out with girls having a drink , we thought he had dated, but no, only drinks or the most is kiss, he never had a real sex.....
so now he is addicted to watching sex online, or talking to elder women about sex , actually he is focusing to find a woman much older than him now.

I m worrying, but don't know how to help him.
how to let him get rid of the addiction of sex, how to teach him to approach a right relationship.
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Old 03-06-2018, 07:24 PM
 
Location: Brentwood, Tennessee
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I have a relative who is 39 years old , good job, good salary, average looking but sweet , shy, likes sports and travel, he has never had a real relationship, sometimes hanging out with girls having a drink , we thought he had dated, but no, only drinks or the most is kiss, he never had a real sex.....
so now he is addicted to watching sex online, or talking to elder women about sex , actually he is focusing to find a woman much older than him now.

I m worrying, but don't know how to help him.
how to let him get rid of the addiction of sex, how to teach him to approach a right relationship.
Does he WANT help?
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Old 03-06-2018, 07:42 PM
 
Location: In a place beyond human comprehension
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Has he asked for any assistance?
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Old 03-06-2018, 07:48 PM
 
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Addiction therapy.
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Old 03-06-2018, 07:48 PM
 
Location: Huntersville/Charlotte, NC and Washington, DC
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The best way to help him is to mind your own business unless he directly solicits your help.
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Old 03-06-2018, 07:50 PM
 
Location: Willamette Valley, Oregon
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Volunteer! There are tons of volunteer opportunities, and there is a good chance he will meet compatible ladies at an event like this. Volunteering is good in and of itself and it is a great way to meet people.
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Old 03-06-2018, 08:04 PM
 
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Leave him be unless he asks for relationship advice from you.
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Old 03-06-2018, 08:10 PM
 
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Of course he wants help.....
I dont know how to help, I m female sister , I don't understand such situation, plus he is not living in same city .

he is introvert, he is volunteering to multiple women now but still don't do sex with them for real, he wants a good woman, he is not stupid he is educated , but .....good women nowadays run from virgins.
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Old 03-06-2018, 08:20 PM
 
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Of course he wants help.....
I dont know how to help, I m female sister , I don't understand such situation, plus he is not living in same city .

he is introvert, he is volunteering to multiple women now but still don't do sex with them for real, he wants a good woman, he is not stupid he is educated , but .....good women nowadays run from virgins.
Did he actually ask for help? Or did you just decide he needed it?
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Old 03-06-2018, 08:28 PM
 
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I have a relative who is 39 years old , good job, good salary, average looking but sweet , shy, likes sports and travel, he has never had a real relationship, sometimes hanging out with girls having a drink , we thought he had dated, but no, only drinks or the most is kiss, he never had a real sex.....
so now he is addicted to watching sex online, or talking to elder women about sex , actually he is focusing to find a woman much older than him now.

I m worrying, but don't know how to help him.
how to let him get rid of the addiction of sex, how to teach him to approach a right relationship.
Maybe a much older woman is the right relationship for him? It's no different from having a homosexual/heterosexual orientation. Do what ever pleases you; just don't hurt yourself or someone else in the process.
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