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It might be best to date mature people...this one appears to not understand that shes supposed to delete photos of exes from her social media in honor of the dude she's with (you), nor understand that she should offer to pay once in awhile. Just sayin'.
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If they'll have him.
Maybe they'd model some maturity – he could use that. If they stick around for more than 15 minutes.
The age difference isn't the only problem. He's 31. He thinks he looks 25. What he has shown is the emotional lability of someone much younger than that. With "issues."
Today I told her I'm confused about us, she is very sad and said we need to talk this weekend. I'm really thinking about breaking up because I don't see a way out. I was driving to my workplace and thinking to myself, why I'm like this? I'm 31 years old, in shape, good looking always get attention from other girls, almost everywhere I go I get women checking me out, and why I always deal with insecurity and jealousy in relationship? I don't understand, I don't get that. Is there other guys with the same issues in the world? I try to find a reason and I don't know. Its very depressing, very sad my situation. It feels like I'll never be happy in my life! If my therapist don't call me back I'll find another to schedule.
Today I told her I'm confused about us, she is very sad and said we need to talk this weekend. I'm really thinking about breaking up because I don't see a way out. I was driving to my workplace and thinking to myself, why I'm like this? I'm 31 years old, in shape, good looking always get attention from other girls, almost everywhere I go I get women checking me out, and why I always deal with insecurity and jealousy in relationship? I don't understand, I don't get that. Is there other guys with the same issues in the world? I try to find a reason and I don't know. Its very depressing, very sad my situation. It feels like I'll never be happy in my life! If my therapist don't call me back I'll find another to schedule.
If I had to guess I'd say it's that you're choosing women not for how much they can love you and how well you get along (in addition to attraction, obviously), but to make a point to yourself. You "can" get the party college hotties, I believe that's what you're trying to prove. The only reason I say that is that *you* bring up age and hotness in your threads, usually in the very first post, and you immediately state how insecure these make you feel. So it's obviously a very, very strong point for you.
So it's something that goes back and forth and grows on itself. You try your hardest to seem "25" and you get together with the girl who isn't really even that great for you, or vice versa, drawing her in by rushing to pay for all the dates and so on. But you already know she's there because of, well, the methods you used to put her there. Not for who you are or because of a serious attraction. She puts out in return and it's sort of an arrangement.
Well, of course under those circumstances you're going to feel insecure. It's because you know from the get-go that she doesn't want you for you and that if a hot guy her age crossed her path she'd be either going to him, or wishing like hell she could.
Honestly I believe this is an ego thing. When you can feel secure without thinking you're as "young" as you used to be (you're not), you'll start returning the affections of women who genuinely care. Until then, you'll keep making awful choices. Now the reason behind all this insecurity about aging or not seeming like the guy who can "pull" the party hotties? That's up to you and your therapist to discover. It could be something major, or not. I can't see jumping to blame Mom, how about totally absent Dad? Or for that matter, something totally else, or a combination? Go discover that, we can not tell you what it is. But it IS pretty clear that when you date, rather than trying to make a connection, you're trying to make a point. As long as you keep doing that you will keep putting YOURSELF into situations that only compound that insecurity.
If I had to guess I'd say it's that you're choosing women not for how much they can love you and how well you get along (in addition to attraction, obviously), but to make a point to yourself. You "can" get the party college hotties, I believe that's what you're trying to prove. The only reason I say that is that *you* bring up age and hotness in your threads, usually in the very first post, and you immediately state how insecure these make you feel. So it's obviously a very, very strong point for you.
So it's something that goes back and forth and grows on itself. You try your hardest to seem "25" and you get together with the girl who isn't really even that great for you, or vice versa, drawing her in by rushing to pay for all the dates and so on. But you already know she's there because of, well, the methods you used to put her there. Not for who you are or because of a serious attraction. She puts out in return and it's sort of an arrangement.
Well, of course under those circumstances you're going to feel insecure. It's because you know from the get-go that she doesn't want you for you and that if a hot guy her age crossed her path she'd be either going to him, or wishing like hell she could.
Honestly I believe this is an ego thing. When you can feel secure without thinking you're as "young" as you used to be (you're not), you'll start returning the affections of women who genuinely care. Until then, you'll keep making awful choices. Now the reason behind all this insecurity about aging or not seeming like the guy who can "pull" the party hotties? That's up to you and your therapist to discover. It could be something major, or not. I can't see jumping to blame Mom, how about totally absent Dad? Or for that matter, something totally else, or a combination? Go discover that, we can not tell you what it is. But it IS pretty clear that when you date, rather than trying to make a connection, you're trying to make a point. As long as you keep doing that you will keep putting YOURSELF into situations that only compound that insecurity.
That'll be $275, leave it with my receptionist.
In other words OP, you want a trophy. Not a companion/significant other.
Today I learned that traditional dating roles make a woman a gold digger.
I wish I met more women who wanted me to pick them up and drop them off. Not meeting somewhere like we're college buddies hanging out.
Actually I make more money than her so I don't mind paying BUT she never offers? Never bought me anything, not even a cheap gift!
I had a girlfriend who earned a good living like I do, but she expected me to buy her expensive gifts. Our first Christmas together, she bought me a cheap drugstore perfume set for about $10.99. Nothing else.
Go with your instincts and launch her.
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Not for who you are or because of a serious attraction. She puts out in return and it's sort of an arrangement.
Or for that matter, something totally else, or a combination? Go discover that, we can not tell you what it is. But it IS pretty clear that when you date, rather than trying to make a connection, you're trying to make a point. As long as you keep doing that you will keep putting YOURSELF into situations that only compound that insecurity.
