I think my girlfriend is a gold digger (girls, attracted, young)
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She's in college, she lives with her parents, has her own car and she has a job.
But she still might not have the disposable income to match your date spending equally. College students have many school expenses and whatever she makes at her job could be going to those necessities first.
If she's making demands of you and expects you to spend lots of money on her, that's one thing. If she's just being inexperienced about dating or she has more traditional expectations, that's not malicious and can be cleared up with an honest conversation.
OP, she is only 21 and still in college. How much money could she possibly have? Also maybe she's a hesitant driver? When did she get her license? Is that her car or her parents? Does she even work part-time to pay for gas?
Being the older person in the relationship you should definitely be paying the majority of the time since she's still a student. Maybe she just expects you to pay since you are older, working full-time, and have your own place and car?
You are 31, OP???
Oh....that's different. How much money did YOU have at age 21..????
She's doing her best with school and a job...but she can't have the money you do from a full-time job.
I know I make more money than her but I just wanted to see her making a move in something, offer to pay, I just want her to spoil me too. I want to talk to her but I don't want to make her upset!
I know I make more money than her but I just wanted to see her making a move in something, offer to pay, I just want her to spoil me too. I want to talk to her but I don't want to make her upset!
21-year-olds are notoriously self-centered. Unless she was trained by her parents to be considerate and have good manners and show that kind of consideration you're talking about, she's basically barely out of her teen years and not likely to take your "constructive criticism" very well.
Why do you always end your sentences with an exclamation mark! Is this how you go through life!!!! Constantly surprised by it!!!!!!
Stay calm. Tell her what pleases you and makes you feel cared for. Everyone's different. Your love language seems to be material gifts. For others it is physical affection, companionship, acts of service or verbal affirmations.
Why do you always end your sentences with an exclamation mark! Is this how you go through life!!!! Constantly surprised by it!!!!!!
Stay calm. Tell her what pleases you and makes you feel cared for. Everyone's different. Your love language seems to be material gifts. For others it is physical affection, companionship, acts of service or verbal affirmations.
Why not do the easier way and just tell her your budget is getting stretched and you two need to find some other things to do that don't cost.
See what her reaction is. Will she just say "OK" .Will she offer to pay some? Will she maybe want to have a talk about it to see what a resolution might be?
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