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It shouldn't matter at all realistically, what's the difference. As a gay man I think it's a unique perspective, because when I met my husband there was no difference, we were both guys making as much as we could. From our point of view whoever made the most - good for them! Good for us! That's how it should be.
If anything ours was an age thing, which can be similar. He was 24 and already making $88K a year compared to me at 31 only making $64K. I didn't have a problem with it at all, he even asked a few times if the money thing was weird and I burst out laughing - I told him to go make as much as he wants, I wasn't going to be upset. He's still ahead of me $150K to $130K but we're just SO fortunate to have each other and to be so lucky on our salaries, life is too short to get petty on those things.
- can put aside his male ego & not feel ashamed / immasculated, etc. that his woman makes more than him
- doesn't just kick his feet up either by being a lazy a-hole & let the woman take care of him, which I hope she's smart enough to NEVER do!
- simply does his best to work hard & do what he can to bring in whatever amount of money he makes
- doesn't see everything in life as a d@mn competition & definitely NOT with his partner AT ALL: Who makes more, who gets the job promotion first, who cooks better, who's smarter, who's neater, who drives better, etc., etc., etc.
With my own personal situation, I've made more than my SO before because I have the higher education...(NOT that people w/ higher educations always make more, but they generally do). My SO isn't mad, resentful, bitter, hurt, ashamed, etc. Those thoughts never enter his mind. We work TOGETHER to accomplish a goal.
Many times, he's said to me that he wishes I didn't have to work AT ALL & that if anyone shouldn't work, I deserve not to, etc.
Women need to pick the right kind of respectable, cooperative, even-tempered men, NOT some stupid, stubborn, egomaniacal hotheads who aren't in your corner 200%.
I would love to date a high earning woman. I'll be honest and say that I've met very few in my lifetime who wanna dateme though.
And I get a good amount of attention from the opposite sex, maybe a little more than your average guy.
Like if I were to get on match or one of those things were people display their income, every women in my inbox would earn less than I.
Maybe because the high-earning women don't do OLD, or not the OLD that the plebes use. Just because you don't run into them, doesn't mean they don't exist. They're out there. And some of them are on Match, etc., but don't advertise their salary. Which you shouldn't be doing, either, probably.
- can put aside his male ego & not feel ashamed / immasculated, etc. that his woman makes more than him
- doesn't just kick his feet up either by being a lazy a-hole & let the woman take care of him, which I hope she's smart enough to NEVER do!
- simply does his best to work hard & do what he can to bring in whatever amount of money he makes
- doesn't see everything in life as a d@mn competition & definitely NOT with his partner AT ALL: Who makes more, who gets the job promotion first, who cooks better, who's smarter, who's neater, who drives better, etc., etc., etc.
With my own personal situation, I've made more than my SO before because I have the higher education...(NOT that people w/ higher educations always make more, but they generally do). My SO isn't mad, resentful, bitter, hurt, ashamed, etc. Those thoughts never enter his mind. We work TOGETHER to accomplish a goal.
Many times, he's said to me that he wishes I didn't have to work AT ALL & that if anyone shouldn't work, I deserve not to, etc.
Women need to pick the right kind of respectable, cooperative, even-tempered men, NOT some stupid, stubborn, egomaniacal hotheads who aren't in your corner 200%.
It’s a two way street though. The woman also has to accept that if the man is comfortable with this and is holding a job then he’s not any less of a man than had he made more money. The typical mantra is that she “wears the pants” in the family and he is some immaculated. This is not a fair label if people wish for true gender neutrality to exist.
Talk to any Psychiatrist and they'll tell you most women aren't comfortable dating men who earn significantly less. Or men who're less educated. Like a women with a master's from a high ranking university isn't usually interest in a man with a two year degree or even a bachelor's from a local uni.
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