Those people who date for free dinner....

[The Dissenter]

Originally Posted by jerseygal4u

But I'd bet you would want your wife to cook and clean for you.

Just like paying for dates, I’d expect a wife and I to switch off on whose turn it is or split the duties.

[jerseygal4u]

Originally Posted by usayit

It was asked why men traditionally pay for dates... not what Diss or any of us expected out of a wife. Missing context?

Maybe.

I thought most people date to look for a wife or husband,but I see I am wrong.

Well,perhaps men traditionally paid for dates because they were seeking a wife,to show her that they can take care for her financially.

[david0966]

Originally Posted by jerseygal4u

Maybe.

I thought most people date to look for a wife or husband,but I see I am wrong.

Well,perhaps men traditionally paid for dates because they were seeking a wife,to show her that they can take care for her financially.

Newsflash: It’s not 1950 anymore. It seems like you have a very insolated life.

[david0966]

Originally Posted by jerseygal4u

But I'd bet you would want your wife to cook and clean for you.

I’ve done my own cooking and cleaning since I was 12 years old. Never married, but if I was what you said would not be true at all.

[LowonLuck]

Originally Posted by jade408

I have definitely heard about this door opening thing before. From male friends too. It happens more often then you would think, but certainly not universal. Of course not all regions have a lot men who open doors either.

We chuckle about if now, but on my fiancé and my first date, we met for coffee. He was there before me and already got his coffee. I just joined him at the table, and declined his offer to buy me coffee. When he walked me to his car, his good friend just happened to pull in parking lot, and they both now joke that I would not let either of them shut my car door. I don't know why, normally I am good with it, but I just had a day where I was fiercely independent.

[goodheathen]

Originally Posted by jerseygal4u

Maybe.

I thought most people date to look for a wife or husband,but I see I am wrong.

Well,perhaps men traditionally paid for dates because they were seeking a wife,to show her that they can take care for her financially.

Unfortunately, these days, maybe in most age ranges, that isn't the primary reason for dating.

I don't think many men are aiming for sex right after paying the bill for a breakfast date, though, what an unpleasant little surprise that was. I don't think most men are as bad as the type you somehow are meeting. I wasn't trying to trick you into a lecture, but you sound extremely jaded and maybe should take a break from dating and re-think your approach to everything. If you do find Mr. Provider, you might find yourself unhappier than as a single and for example a health crisis on his end could wipe out the financial gain you're counting on.