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In 2015, I started dating my current girlfriend. Last year, she broke her neck in a skiing accident and is paralyzed from the shoulders down. She was in the hospital and then a rehab facility for several months and only recently returned home(her parents home). She is dependent on others for almost everything. She had been working as a lawyer prior to her accident. She wants to return to doing that job somehow.
She has told me that she would understand if I want to leave her. I don't want to leave her. I want to marry her, but most people in my life aren't supportive especially my brother and friends. They have straight up told me that I would end being more of a husband than a caregiver.
..I think you meant to say at the end that your friends and family would think you would be more of a caregiver then a husband.
In the end,it's your life and if you love her and this is what you want to do..then you should follow your heart.Just make sure that you know what you will be in for and I feel that that is what your friends and family is trying to tell you.Follow through with your heart.
I watched a movie last night that is a true story. Called Breathe (on Prime). The man got an illness that paralyzed him from the neck down, and required him to be on a ventilator all the time. He wanted to die, he wanted his wife to leave him, but she didn't want him to die, didn't want to leave him, none of that.
IDK where his family was, but her family embraced the situation and friends helped as well. She didn't even like it 15 years in when he was really ready to die, things were getting even worse than they already were, but she respected his wish.
In 2015, I started dating my current girlfriend. Last year, she broke her neck in a skiing accident and is paralyzed from the shoulders down. She was in the hospital and then a rehab facility for several months and only recently returned home(her parents home). She is dependent on others for almost everything. She had been working as a lawyer prior to her accident. She wants to return to doing that job somehow.
She has told me that she would understand if I want to leave her. I don't want to leave her. I want to marry her, but most people in my life aren't supportive especially my brother and friends. They have straight up told me that I would end being more of a husband than a caregiver.
Proficiency as an attorney is one of the best to have with a disability. There are many things she can still do. My brother is a disabled attorney and one 'gig' was being the owner of a title company that didn't require a lot of actual work of any type. It's a legal requirement that an attorney be the owner or the President or something like that.
In 2015, I started dating my current girlfriend. Last year, she broke her neck in a skiing accident and is paralyzed from the shoulders down. She was in the hospital and then a rehab facility for several months and only recently returned home(her parents home). She is dependent on others for almost everything. She had been working as a lawyer prior to her accident. She wants to return to doing that job somehow.
She has told me that she would understand if I want to leave her. I don't want to leave her. I want to marry her, but most people in my life aren't supportive especially my brother and friends....
Ahhhh bless your heart!!
I cried when I read your post here..... Alot of ppl would leave someone who got hurt...... You are a true god send to her and YES I think you should go thru with the marriage... I KNOW IN MY HEART YOU ARE THE ONE FOR HER!!
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I cannot really comprehend the scope of the challenges you two would face. All I can add is that I wish you both the very best, no matter what decision you make about marriage. It is a very tough decision.
Proficiency as an attorney is one of the best to have with a disability. There are many things she can still do. My brother is a disabled attorney and one 'gig' was being the owner of a title company that didn't require a lot of actual work of any type. It's a legal requirement that an attorney be the owner or the President or something like that.
Yes, of course she can work as an attorney!
Think of all Stephen Hawking accomplished....
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