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Per my other thread, I've been dating a girl with lupus who has recently been wheelchair bound. She's a great girl and I really like her.
I've slept with another woman a few times off and on before I knew the sick girl. She's larger, in normal health, doesn't have a great job, but is good in bed. She supposedly found someone, but that fell through within the last few weeks. She's been wanting to sleep with me again. I have no chemistry at all with her romantically. She's also an innocent victim of a layoff and will lose her job in mid-April. She's just good in bed.
The woman I've slept with is a bit heavy, but is mobile. She can do things with me (to an extent) and can walk. The newer girl with lupus has nuked hips from the steroids from lupus treatment.
The "other woman" wants me to come over tomorrow night, but I turned her down. The "lupus girl" and me are probably having a quiet night in with me bringing in take out if she feels bad. If she feels better, we might go out and do a short date. I'd much rather be at home watching TV with the girl in the wheelchair than on some wild romp with the other woman.
That's when I knew I really valued her. I can turn down other "more fun" activities to preserve and nurture a relationship. How do you value your partner?
Nothing mattered. The only thing that was important was being together. We could be homeless and I'd be happy because I was with him. I miss him terribly. He died a few years ago. I still feel married, and its hard to even think about moving on. I wouldn't do anything different. As I told him, I'd do it all again 1,000 times.
Nothing mattered. The only thing that was important was being together. We could be homeless and I'd be happy because I was with him. I miss him terribly. He died a few years ago. I still feel married, and its hard to even think about moving on. I wouldn't do anything different. As I told him, I'd do it all again 1,000 times.
That's life. How much do you value yourself?
Oh geez. Makes me feel like crying. I know how that feels, but don't know if it's reciprocated. One has to make it known as well for it to work, don't they.
Is she really your "partner" after a week of dating?
I was thinking the same thing. It is OK to decide "I want to be with Sally tonight rather than Mary" but to even start to be thinking of "lupus girl" () as your "partner" is delusional. Yes, delusional.
I was thinking the same thing. It is OK to decide "I want to be with Sally tonight rather than Mary" but to even start to be thinking of "lupus girl" () as your "partner" is delusional. Yes, delusional.
It doesn't sound respectful or even polite. "Lupus girl"? You have got to be kidding!
Well to me if you value someone...you still wouldn't even have contact with someone whom you had recently slept with if you're with this other person that you say you value.No contact with that person anymore and just focus on one person if you truly value that person.
You sound like a nice guy...who is moving REALLY fast. Don't mistake white knight syndrome for real and lasting feelings - she doesn't need a white knight who'll burn out on her. She needs someone who loves her - are you really there yet?
I'm sorry but this is coming off really disingenuous to me.
1. You literally just met this girl.
2. You listed out a bunch of red flags and the tone of that thread felt way different than this one. It was as if you were trying to convince yourself to date/like her.
3. Why do you feel the need to keep sharing it and justifying it to a bunch of strangers?
4. Why are you comparing her to another woman you slept with and listed a bunch of red flags for and sharing it with us? What do you want us to tell you?
If you really feel like she's the one and you're doing a good thing by being with her, there's no need to justify it. Do you.
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