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Old 03-25-2018, 06:55 AM
 
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If you have a really cute/pretty face, then physical scars or other body imperfections don't really bother me.

But the facial features are very important to me, if you don't look cute, then I would not date. Sorry but you asked for an opinion and I am giving the blunt truth.

Good luck.
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Old 03-25-2018, 08:19 AM
 
Location: NNJ
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The answer for me would .. it depends. A lot of it based on extent and what other things I find attractive.

But I would surmise its probably not as big of an issue as it seems.. Obviously it is a very personal concern for you so there is focus placed on it.
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Old 03-25-2018, 09:51 PM
 
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Nope I would tell your story before it gets to the naked bits. I would understand the scars are apart of who you are and there is a a strength to that. Some guys might be turned off but likely they are weak.
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Old 03-25-2018, 10:20 PM
 
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I think a guy would be weird to care about that. I dated a man who was worried about his scars from burns, and they were bad, bad as in telling of the pain of what they must have been like, not bad as in ugly. To see them as ugly never occurred to me.

Scars are also the unique kind of thing that someone who loves you, or even is just infatuated with you, think are awesome.
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Old 03-26-2018, 05:08 AM
 
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Well, the distance between "This guy likes me and I kind of like him too" to "let's take off all our clothes and do the horizontal bop" is as short or as long as you want to make it. Somewhere between those you probably want to tell him that you had a lot of surgeries and have a bunch of scars.
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Old 03-26-2018, 05:14 AM
 
Location: Northside Of Jacksonville
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Think of your scars as war wounds. In all honesty, the scars wouldn't bother me as someone stated, there's all kinds of creams and other products to get rid of scars.
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Old 03-26-2018, 05:28 AM
 
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I was born with a bunch of birth defects. Most of which have required surgery to fix. I have scars from surgeries on my heart, liver, lungs, kidneys, intestines, one on my shoulder unrelated to my health problems (from a childhood sports injury), and one on my leg and neck from veins grafts I needed for other organs. Plus little scars from chest tubes, biopsies, and little things like that. Most of these scars are blatantly obvious. I never thought about it before but now this guy likes me and I kinda like him too but I'm self conscious about my scars and about if guys are comfortable dating somebody who has all these problems. Although I have to say, considering all the issues I have had, I am in pretty good health. That is by no means the end of all my surgeries but I'm a lot better than I was even a few years ago. (I'm 24). So my question is, would all the scars or the health problems turn you guys off?
Scars tell the story of your life. If a man is turned off by them, then he is not worthy of being with you.
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Old 03-26-2018, 05:00 PM
 
Location: Columbia SC
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Health issues have arisen in several posts. Personally I would not become involved with someone that had health problems. Aiding, helping, nursing, etc. one's spouse thru such is another subject, been there, done that, but I say avoid such.
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Old 03-26-2018, 05:51 PM
 
Location: Nevada
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The right man will see you as a warrior, as a survivor, as a heroine. He will love your scars as proof of your battles and fighting spirit.

The wrong man? Who cares what he thinks?
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Old 03-26-2018, 06:14 PM
 
Location: Saint John, IN
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I have a lot of scars as well. One of which is a big scar on my chest from open heart surgery when I was a kid. I will also have life long heart issues. That didn't bother my DH at all. And I didn't have to say :So I've had heart surgery and consistently need to see a cardiologist", he knew as I don't hide the scar (it comes up pretty high). Of course he had some questions, but it didn't scare him off.


If someone honestly likes/loves you, they will accept everything about you, good and bad! And if not, then they are not worth your time anyway! Love yourself!
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