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I'd ask him if he likes the yoga or the teacher, because if he likes the yoga, the turn-down he is 99% sure to get would make it very awkward to return to the yoga class... just saying....
Precisely! Don't poop where you eat. Whether the OP wants to teach it to their nephew verbally, or let him learn it the hard way, it's on them.
If the age of consent is 17 or less, let him ask, and keep the confidence. If she accepts, then it's the nephew's battle to have with his parents, not yours. If he gets shot down, don't add an unwanted parental discussion to his disappointment.
It shouldn't be embarrassing to YOU. Yoga teachers get hit on all the time, and she should know how to handle it.
Let him learn the hard way. He probably won't even ask her.
^^this^^ he is at an age where he isnt going to listen to you when his hormones start to talk to him. you can talk till you are blue in the face, and he will still do as he wishes. all you can do is give him the information you have, and be there to pick up the pieces when his world collapses around him. in time he will learn, and with your help you can refine his "game" so that he wins more than he loses.
give him the tools to help him go after what he thinks he wants. dont hold him back.
^^this^^ he is at an age where he isnt going to listen to you when his hormones start to talk to him. you can talk till you are blue in the face, and he will still do as he wishes. all you can do is give him the information you have, and be there to pick up the pieces when his world collapses around him. in time he will learn, and with your help you can refine his "game" so that he wins more than he loses.
give him the tools to help him go after what he thinks he wants. dont hold him back.
I'm not sure what the bolded passages mean. I think mom (or dad) need to help him refine his selection criteria, so that he at least goes after someone more attainable, though I agree he needs to learn this from experience, on this occasion.But if he's bummed and doesn't take the rejection in stride very well afterwards, then a little talk about general age-appropriateness would be in order. Though you'd think he could figure that out by himself. I guess it's as others have said; his hormones have overruled any sensible thought-processes.
I'm not sure what the bolded passages mean. I think mom (or dad) need to help him refine his selection criteria, so that he at least goes after someone more attainable, though I agree he needs to learn this from experience, on this occasion.But if he's bummed and doesn't take the rejection in stride very well afterwards, then a little talk about general age-appropriateness would be in order. Though you'd think he could figure that out by himself. I guess it's as others have said; his hormones have overruled any sensible thought-processes.
its a matter of helping him gain confidence in himself. if he goes after this woman, and get rejected and dad is telling him, "i told you so", its going to kill any confidence he has in himself.
on the other hand if dad reminds him that she is older than he is, and gives him pointers on how to approach her, even if she rejects him, he doesnt lose his confidence. and he learns at an early age that he needs to refine his game if he wants to get in good with women.
remember eventually those hormones are going to stabilize, and he will have better judgement in his selection process, but until then dad needs to let him go and give him advice on asking a woman out, and not hold him back.
Telling him he shouldn't do it just makes the forbidden fruit appear all the more sweet. When he realizes it is out of reach, he'll find some low hanging fruit elsewhere.
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