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Old 06-02-2018, 09:34 AM
 
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Originally Posted by urban sasquatch View Post
financial abuse, like other forms of abuse, can manifest in various ways.


First off, you need to get something through your head: There is nothing wrong with wanting both of you to be successful, and there is nothing wrong with wanting to help out toward that goal.


But those coins have another side, one where there is something wrong with someone allowing you to foot the bill in order that they are free to spend "their" money as they see fit.


I didn't bother quoting your first post, just the one above -- because it tells you everything you need to know.


He threatened you. Pay close attention to this, i'll say it again.


He... Threatened... You. His threat is only about shaming you publicly, but he threatened to do so if you dare to leave him, that "people would know" why you really did it.


What kind of relationship is that? I don't care what he's like the rest of the time, it's during fights when our tempers are flaring we often get a good look into someone's character, for better or worse.


So you're questioning whether or not you should stick with a relationship with a man who has threatened to shame and humiliate you (or to at least attempt it) if you leave.


I only have your side of the situation to go on, but even without all the rest of it, this alone would be enough to tell me... Well, let me put it differently, more directly:


In doing this, he told you precisely what he thinks of you. He's already told you.




You have all the answer you need: Yes, you're being financially abused, and further, it won't stop. This is his financial character.

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Old 06-03-2018, 11:43 AM
 
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So no one knows what you're making up here, since Ruth found the post where you said you were married (good catch!). But on the probable chance that you are NOT married....

Numero Uno. He will never ever marry you. Ever.

Numero Dos. He doesnt love you, its painfully obvious. He may one day meet someone that he really falls in love with, and when he does, he'll drop you like a hot potato. And what will you have then?
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