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"I sure do understand that. Seems very common these days that family units sort of drift apart, even if once they were quite close. I find that a bit sad sometimes, do you? But I am absolutely focusing on my own future. I sure don't expect anyone to do that for me. Hopes, dreams, projects in the works, and all that good stuff. Curious what kind of vision you have for your own future, if it's not an intrusion to ask. But perhaps that would be easier to discuss over coffee or something?"
...at least if the man seems intriguing enough that you want to meet him.
His response was not really, since he and his siblings are on their own with their own families, as with him being single, he's independent and lives on his own.
He went on to say, and I quote:
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"Each will be taking care of his/her own family so the unity dissolves. That's why I'm looking out for myself, my future, since nobody cares more than I. You should too. You have to secure your own future. Your parents won't be around forever. I hope you understand."
I find this part to be well, preaching to the choir. I agree about preparing for one's future and looking out for oneself, and that's what I'm doing.
You are over-thinking it. You are projecting your insecurity onto him and making a deal out of it.
It just isn't. You are making something out of nothing. Just move on to another subject. Don't reply anything because no reply is necessary. He wasn't sending you a personal message, he was just explaining his philosophy.
Venus, Mars. Make your decisions based upon what he says and your take-away. Date him if you like him, skip him if you don't.
So I communicated with a guy through a dating site . He told me about his background, that he came from a large family with almost all his siblings being married, his parents passed away years earlier.
He asked me about my family too, so I told him that I came from a big family as well.
To make further small talk, I mentioned that given that his family of origin is large, it must've been nice to get to spend time with his nieces or nephews. I don't know if this is the case, so I'm just assuming.
His response was not really, since he and his siblings are on their own with their own families, as with him being single, he's independent and lives on his own.
He went on to say, and I quote:
" Each will be taking care of his/her own family so the unity dissolves. That's why I'm looking out for myself, my future, since nobody cares more than I. You should too. You have to secure your own future. Your parents won't be around forever. I hope you understand."
I find this part to be well, preaching to the choir. I agree about preparing for one's future and looking out for oneself, and that's what I'm doing.
It just felt like, what did I say that gave him the impression that I'm not preparing for my future, or that I didn't understand what he said?
I guess the fact that I'm posting here means I don't know...What would be a good reply to him?
Maybe he's just a pompous, self-centered ass.
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