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So I've been talking to this guy for a few weeks online. He found me via social media, and now we email each other every single day. He uses social media in relation to advertising his business--he's not a totally active user.
The thing is, he's wealthy but I think he might be a little coo coo for cocoa puffs. I'm not being catfished, I've done my research. Has a very successful business.
He's much older than I am, old enough to be my father.
He's been married before, but it only lasted 3 years. She apparently cheated on him, and would talk to other men on the internet. He didn't like this, so they split. He has no children, but wants some.
He lives out in Florida, and is actually making plans to buy a home in the state I live in (New England area) and wants to marry me, he says. He keeps telling me how he's so in love with me.
We learn more and more about each and every day, but I do not love him.
Should I ditch this guy, or should I just Anna Nicole Smith it, and go full throttle.
He says he's crazy about me, and loves everything about me. He says he likes me because I give him a lot of attention, and that I make him laugh.
I kind of just wanted to use him as a sugar daddy, but he seemed appalled when I jokingly asked he wanted to be my sugar daddy. He wants me to be his wife.
So I've been talking to this guy for a few weeks online. He found me via social media, and now we email each other every single day. He uses social media in relation to advertising his business--he's not a totally active user.
The thing is, he's wealthy but I think he might be a little coo coo for cocoa puffs. I'm not being catfished, I've done my research. Has a very successful business.
He's much older than I am, old enough to be my father.
He's been married before, but it only lasted 3 years. She apparently cheated on him, and would talk to other men on the internet. He didn't like this, so they split. He has no children, but wants some.
He lives out in Florida, and is actually making plans to buy a home in the state I live in (New England area) and wants to marry me, he says. He keeps telling me how he's so in love with me.
We learn more and more about each and every day, but I do not love him.
Should I ditch this guy, or should I just Anna Nicole Smith it, and go full throttle.
He says he's crazy about me, and loves everything about me. He says he likes me because I give him a lot of attention, and that I make him laugh.
I kind of just wanted to use him as a sugar daddy, but he seemed appalled when I jokingly asked he wanted to be my sugar daddy. He wants me to be his wife.
What do you fine folks think?
I don’t think it’s OK to use people, but maybe he doesn’t care if you don’t love him right now as long as you’re open to growing to love him. So go ahead and marry him if you want to!
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Well, of course you don't love him. You've never met him.
And he doesn't love you. He loves the idea of you, and what he's created in his own head about you.
Do you have any plans to actually meet at any point? A man who's a successful business man and has a wonderful personality and is healthy - IMHO - would not be in such a huge rush to marry someone he hasn't met.
He's wealthy, he's old enough to be your dad, and he's been married 3 years of his 40 something life. Something's wrong.
If someone falls in love with me in 3 weeks my immediate reaction is that they are immature...or don't know their own mind...or that they are lying to take advantage of me because they think I'm stupid...or that I could be anyone at all and they'd feel the same so basically that I'm not special at all to them. So yeah - all bad reasons.
So I've been talking to this guy for a few weeks online. He found me via social media, and now we email each other every single day. He uses social media in relation to advertising his business--he's not a totally active user.
The thing is, he's wealthy but I think he might be a little coo coo for cocoa puffs. I'm not being catfished, I've done my research. Has a very successful business.
He's much older than I am, old enough to be my father.
He's been married before, but it only lasted 3 years. She apparently cheated on him, and would talk to other men on the internet. He didn't like this, so they split. He has no children, but wants some.
He lives out in Florida, and is actually making plans to buy a home in the state I live in (New England area) and wants to marry me, he says. He keeps telling me how he's so in love with me.
We learn more and more about each and every day, but I do not love him.
Should I ditch this guy, or should I just Anna Nicole Smith it, and go full throttle.
He says he's crazy about me, and loves everything about me. He says he likes me because I give him a lot of attention, and that I make him laugh.
I kind of just wanted to use him as a sugar daddy, but he seemed appalled when I jokingly asked he wanted to be my sugar daddy. He wants me to be his wife.
What do you fine folks think?
I think he's a nut and you're...
Either he is very naive, in which case I pity him, or he is playing you, in which case you sound like a perfect match. Using people is not okay.
So I've been talking to this guy for a few weeks online. He found me via social media, and now we email each other every single day. He uses social media in relation to advertising his business--he's not a totally active user.
The thing is, he's wealthy but I think he might be a little coo coo for cocoa puffs. I'm not being catfished, I've done my research. Has a very successful business.
He's much older than I am, old enough to be my father.
He's been married before, but it only lasted 3 years. She apparently cheated on him, and would talk to other men on the internet. He didn't like this, so they split. He has no children, but wants some.
He lives out in Florida, and is actually making plans to buy a home in the state I live in (New England area) and wants to marry me, he says. He keeps telling me how he's so in love with me.
We learn more and more about each and every day, but I do not love him.
Should I ditch this guy, or should I just Anna Nicole Smith it, and go full throttle.
He says he's crazy about me, and loves everything about me. He says he likes me because I give him a lot of attention, and that I make him laugh.
I kind of just wanted to use him as a sugar daddy, but he seemed appalled when I jokingly asked he wanted to be my sugar daddy. He wants me to be his wife.
What do you fine folks think?
Yeahhhhh...no. You know what the answer is, OP. You seem to have a good sense about these things. But what bothers me is that it raises the "too much too soon" red flag. He hasn't even met you, but he's in love with you? And he's old enough to be your father? If that's true, he should know better than to "fall in love" with a stranger over the internet. He "loves" you, because you give him attention? Anyone could do that. Would he "fall in love" with anyone who gave him attention and made him laugh?
This guy is asking for trouble. (If, in fact, he's for real, as you say he is.) Very bad decision-making skills. Don't let his train wreck happen in your front yard. Send him on down the line. CHOO-CHOO!
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with a stranger over the internet. He "loves" you, because you give him attention? Anyone could do that. Would he "fall in love" 
