Facebook mutual and suggested friends (difference, issues, serious, like)
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Added you? I dont think Facebook works that way? You have to either accept or decline a friend request?
Facebook is dying anyway and no one truly uses it to date. All that "mutual friends" "people you might know" thing is crap.
Think OP is a day late & a dollar short on finding people on FB. No one is bombarded with requests and messages. And a random message from a guy? Just no.
And do not show up at a woman's house for a garage sale.
Since I've taken a break from online dating. I then discovered the "people you may know" or "suggested friends" list that pops up from time to time.
They usually are there because you share some mutual friends on Facebook. I figured that using that as a resource to get to know some ladies where we share a few mutual friends as a reason to break the ice.
Good idea, bad idea? I be like, "Hey, I see we share 5 friends on Facebook, small world!"
I kind of had this happen to me. A woman who I had never met before friended me on Facebook. We had lots of mutual friends because we are in the same social group. She has over 1,000 FB friends so I’m assuming she just randomly friends a lot of the people who show up in her “suggested friends” list, which I guess I did (also, I only accepted her friend request because she was attractive AND we had a lot of mutual friends...obviously you never accept a friend request from a complete random person with no mutual friends). Anyways, she’s pretty attractive and since she randomly friended me, I just sent her a generic message, “hey I see you’re in XYZ group and we know a lot of the same people...” We exchanged a few messages and she eventually gave me her number, and we met up a few times and have run into each other in our social group. She is always super busy, so it didn’t amount to anything, but we are now friends.
In that scenario, she opened the door by friending me first, and we had so many mutual friends that it was easy and not awkward to message her. I have never just randomly messaged a woman that I’ve never met before (especially if there are no mutual friends) as they would probably consider that “creepy” (whatever that buzzword means now). If there are no mutual friends, I agree that it is “creepy” for a girl or guy to message someone, but if there are mutual friends and you find a lady really attractive, it’s worth a shot; at least you have a starting point.
I kind of had this happen to me. A woman who I had never met before friended me on Facebook. We had lots of mutual friends because we are in the same social group. She has over 1,000 FB friends so I’m assuming she just randomly friends a lot of the people who show up in her “suggested friends” list, which I guess I did (also, I only accepted her friend request because she was attractive AND we had a lot of mutual friends...obviously you never accept a friend request from a complete random person with no mutual friends). Anyways, she’s pretty attractive and since she randomly friended me, I just sent her a generic message, “hey I see you’re in XYZ group and we know a lot of the same people...” We exchanged a few messages and she eventually gave me her number, and we met up a few times and have run into each other in our social group. She is always super busy, so it didn’t amount to anything, but we are now friends.
In that scenario, she opened the door by friending me first, and we had so many mutual friends that it was easy and not awkward to message her. I have never just randomly messaged a woman that I’ve never met before (especially if there are no mutual friends) as they would probably consider that “creepy” (whatever that buzzword means now). If there are no mutual friends, I agree that it is “creepy” for a girl or guy to message someone, but if there are mutual friends and you find a lady really attractive, it’s worth a shot; at least you have a starting point.
Good points, and the only women that would initially friend me were just fake, foreign scammers. lol
Absolutely not! Usually it's mutual acquaintances, people I've met but scarcely know. And I'm not interested. I sure as hell am not going to "friend" someone I've met through another acquaintance! The less people know your business, the better!
Well, that all depends on what you put out there on Facebook. The less, the better. ;-)
Gentleman. I was wondering, depending on the nature of the connection you have with your friends on Facebook.
If you see a lady of your interest, and it says, "Single" on her FB profile and let's say you both share like 5 or 6 friends on FB through various mutual interests and hobbies, would you attempt to make contact with her, introducing yourself as mutual friend of said same mutual friend?
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Guys, do you reach out to mutual FB friends?
