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A few times this has happened. Where I'd get a woman's phone #, then follow it up by, "I prefer to text than talk". At first I'm okay with it, but know I'm big on communication, which is the corner stone of any relationship.
But I think eventually, she should be okay with talking on the phone, sometimes?
I not entirely opposed to texting, but in the "getting to know you" stage, sometimes it's a bit more involved, and I don't like typing up waves of words to convey something that I feel I'm better at just verbally expressing instead.
I've been known to cut texting conversations off and just call when I think it's getting to complicated to explain things via text.
A few times this has happened. Where I'd get a woman's phone #, then follow it up by, "I prefer to text than talk". At first I'm okay with it, but know I'm big on communication, which is the corner stone of any relationship.
But I think eventually, she should be okay with talking on the phone, sometimes?
I not entirely opposed to texting, but in the "getting to know you" stage, sometimes it's a bit more involved, and I don't like typing up waves of words to convey something that I feel I'm better at just verbally expressing instead.
I've been known to cut texting conversations off and just call when I think it's getting to complicated to explain things via text.
It depends on the person. Some people get so socially anxious that they just about never want to talk on the phone. They can usually use the phone for their job, but not for personal relationships if it's not their family (and/or friends). I think it's weird too, but it's becoming a more common thing than it should be. If they are not willing to use phone, then in-person will be necessary for some things. Definitely worth discussing your concerns to her in-person. You could consider waiting for this discussion to occur and just see how things go for a month or more I think.
It doesn't make communication easy in certain contexts. That is for sure. It seems to be the standard unfortunately now to text and ask if it's okay to call. I even do that with many of my friends.
Although, one of my friends, he has tried to call me several times. It's usually just "how was your day" and no real purpose for the conversation. Not even a let's get together for this or that. I end up responding via text instead, lol. Turns out me and him have even less in common that I originally thought. lol. Oh well.
It depends on the person. Some people get so socially anxious that they just about never want to talk on the phone. They can usually use the phone for their job, but not for personal relationships if it's not their family (and/or friends). I think it's weird too, but it's becoming a more common thing than it should be. If they are not willing to use phone, then in-person will be necessary for some things. Definitely worth discussing your concerns to her in-person. You could consider waiting for this discussion to occur and just see how things go for a month or more I think.
It doesn't make communication easy in certain contexts. That is for sure. It seems to be the standard unfortunately now to text and ask if it's okay to call. I even do that with many of my friends.
Although, one of my friends, he has tried to call me several times. It's usually just "how was your day" and no real purpose for the conversation. Not even a let's get together for this or that. I end up responding via text instead, lol. Turns out me and him have even less in common that I originally thought. lol. Oh well.
I’m not socially anxious, I just hate the phone. It is literally my least favorite form of communication. I have always been this way. It really shouldn’t be beating around the bush so much in early phases. If you think you might be interested enough to meet in person, then meet in person. Why does it need to be weeks of texting followed by more with phone conversation? At some point early on, you should actually meet in person and decide if you are really compatible.
It depends on the person. Some people get so socially anxious that they just about never want to talk on the phone. They can usually use the phone for their job, but not for personal relationships if it's not their family (and/or friends). I think it's weird too, but it's becoming a more common thing than it should be. If they are not willing to use phone, then in-person will be necessary for some things. Definitely worth discussing your concerns to her in-person. You could consider waiting for this discussion to occur and just see how things go for a month or more I think.
It doesn't make communication easy in certain contexts. That is for sure. It seems to be the standard unfortunately now to text and ask if it's okay to call. I even do that with many of my friends.
Although, one of my friends, he has tried to call me several times. It's usually just "how was your day" and no real purpose for the conversation. Not even a let's get together for this or that. I end up responding via text instead, lol. Turns out me and him have even less in common that I originally thought. lol. Oh well.
Like they say, communication is the reason for a lot of break-ups/divorces. This is kind of a hint of things to come if you think about it. People are so willing to put little effort into a relationship as I hear they tend to be mostly one-sided and thus the degradation of said relationship. I think this whole texting-only thing is an enabler of that.
If you read "Bowling Alone" it's a publication addressing this issue of how so much disconnected we've become via electronic devices.
I guess I'm one of those rare breeds that thinks texting is impersonal.
Sometimes I feel it means they aren't into me. That it may be a tool for them to even reject you. They use the texting excuse at a barrier.
Like they say, communication is the reason for a lot of break-ups/divorces. This is kind of a hint of things to come if you think about it. People are so willing to put little effort into a relationship as I hear they tend to be mostly one-sided and thus the degradation of said relationship. I think this whole texting-only thing is an enabler of that.
If you read "Bowling Alone" it's a publication addressing this issue of how so much disconnected we've become via electronic devices.
I guess I'm one of those rare breeds that thinks texting is impersonal.
Sometimes I feel it means they aren't into me. That it may be a tool for them to even reject you. They use the texting excuse at a barrier.
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Like they say, communication is the reason for a lot of break-ups/divorces. This is kind of a hint of things to come if you think about it. People are so willing to put little effort into a relationship as I hear they tend to be mostly one-sided and thus the degradation of said relationship. I think this whole texting-only thing is an enabler of that.
If you read "Bowling Alone" it's a publication addressing this issue of how so much disconnected we've become via electronic devices.
I guess I'm one of those rare breeds that thinks texting is impersonal.
Sometimes I feel it means they aren't into me. That it may be a tool for them to even reject you. They use the texting excuse at a barrier.
Wow, ThisTown, did you actually read "Bowling Alone" in its entirety?
Hats off to you, sincerely. I am really interested in the premise, but getting through that tome is worse than trying to stay awake all the way through Leviticus.
But back to texting. Once you begin to fall in love, and crave hearing each other's voice, phone conversations are more exciting. And I agree with the others, stop communicating by phone after a few (3) exchanges, and meet in person.
I’m not really a big text guy, unless I’m at work. I rather talk; so much more can be covered over voice. Plus, fingers get tired, and autocorrect not so accurate. And my voice is sexier
A few times this has happened. Where I'd get a woman's phone #, then follow it up by, "I prefer to text than talk". At first I'm okay with it, but know I'm big on communication, which is the corner stone of any relationship.
But I think eventually, she should be okay with talking on the phone, sometimes?
I not entirely opposed to texting, but in the "getting to know you" stage, sometimes it's a bit more involved, and I don't like typing up waves of words to convey something that I feel I'm better at just verbally expressing instead.
I've been known to cut texting conversations off and just call when I think it's getting to complicated to explain things via text.
I think you are overthinking everything prematurely. There isn't even a real relationship yet so I wouldn't start in on someone with "cornerstones" or cutting them off & calling.
I’m the opposite and don’t tex. I mean I’ll confrim I’ll be somewhere at sometime or a specific address of text. But I don’t have conversations over text. If you want something from me call me.
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