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Update: He was at his friend's house last night but he responded to my snapchat story where I was complaining about my day (I had a HORRIBLE day yesterday to say the least) and he said "I hope you are ok" to which I replied "eh, i've been better" and then he said "well I can't wait to see you tomorrow" and then he texted me first thing this morning saying good morning " so...looks like he's coming over
Quick question: he works a very physical job all day so by the time he gets home, he likes to relax. Should I give him the option of staying at my place and watching a movie or going to the park? I don't want to just say "let's go to the park" cause I don't want him to feel pressured if he would rather just relax and stay in....some people are telling me not to give him a choice because it will stress him out.
I'm afraid to do that because he said he wouldn't be hungry....I don't want to pressure him to eat or drink anything if it makes him uncomfortable.
Oh, right. He somehow "knows" he won't need any food for the rest of the day, until tomorrow. I would ignore that comment, and would have some snacks and a cool drink, anyway. If it's warm weather and he does physical labor, he'll appreciate the drink. He can always decline the snacks. It's part of being a good host/ess to offer something to your guest. You can always put a couple of small cans of something in a small backpack or purse, and a little bag of cheese and crackers, or something, and take it with you to the park.
Otherwise, if you stay home, and you're oddly terrified of offering him anything, what are you two going to do for the next, roughly 3-6 hours, or however long the hangout is supposed to last? What kind of a date is this? Do you see where this is headed?
And there's the whole issue raised by the fact that you say you're "afraid" to offer him anything to eat/drink. Maybe this isn't a good match, if you're afraid to do something that comes naturally. My "there's something wrong with this picture" flag keeps popping up, here. What if he says he doesn't want to go to the park, "Let's just stay here and chill"? What's your Plan B?
I predict a train wreck of a date. I think he has an agenda, as suggested earlier in the thread. Sorry, OP. But give it your best shot, anyway.
Next time you are with him, kiss him. Yes, YOU make the next move and make it crystal clear you are romantically interested. He's probably being cautious because of worry that you are still hooked on your ex.
Update: He did not come over yesterday. He was feeling under the weather and I do believe him because he snapchatted me a picture and he looked HORRIBLE! I told him to go home and rest but I was able to have a conversation with him about a few things. We are on the same page now. He told me his is interested in spending more time with me because he feels comfortable around me and that he's just taking things 1 day at a time. He's been hurt in the past, as have I, so neither one of us are ready to just jump right into things. I do believe he is a genuinely nice, respectful guy. I have a good feeling about him. He is not like any other guy I've ever met. Even though we've only seen each other once, we've been talking for about 8 months now so I do think I have a good sense of who he is as a person. But still, I am treading lightly cause you really just never know. But now I feel as though both of us are feeling the same way. We like each other and we're just going to go with the flow and see where life takes us. But even if it doesn't end up working out, at least I will have a good friend. As long as he is feeling better, I should be seeing him either tomorrow or Friday....and now I am much more comfortable about it.
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" so...looks like he's coming over 
