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It all started about 3 months ago.. my boyfriend and I have been together for nearly 2 years. A couple of months ago he was at work and his iPad (he had just gotten it a month prior as a prize at work) made a noise in the other room. Curious, I got up to check. It was a message from a random number. I opened his messaging app on his iPad and saw about 20 random numbers he’d been texting over a period of maybe 2-3 weeks... from what seemed to be prostitutes after reading them. All of these messages started with him saying “hey” or “what’s up” or “how much for 45mins/1hr” or “do you do ___?” And stating his age/location/ethnicity. So obviously I was shocked. Totally shocked...he’s been the man of my dreams for over a year, nothing but honest and open with me. That’s why i love him so much. He has NOT seemed like the type of person to do that in the least. At all. So it was so unbelievable. But I did the logical thing and packed my bags and called to tell him I was gone. That’s when he denied it all. He supposedly had no clue what I was talking about. When he got home I showed it to him and he looked just as shocked as I was. All I could do was laugh. Because it’s all right there in front of my face... there’s no way he could deny it. I started to find it humorous. Over the period of the next few days, I had contacted every one of these numbers sending a picture of him asking if they’d ever seen him (pretending to be his friend “Tyler” looking for him because he’s “missing” and “Tyler” found their number on my boyfriends iPad as the most recent person he’s contacted) Every one of them believed it and said they were sorry but they had never seen him before.
Also I should say, all of the messages I found were very short and although prices, times and locations were given, none of them stated they were on their way... his address was given a couple of times but never his actual apartment door number... long story short after some time passed and he mentioned contacting the police because he was just as freaked out as I was, I decided to stay with him because none of it made sense. I was WITH him during a lot of the times these messages were exchanged and he is NEVER on his iPad or phone and leaves his phone and everything with me when he leaves the room. It was all just very confusing and almost impossible... so I let it slide.
But yesterday a similar situation happened again. He was at work and his iPad made a noise, I looked and it was an email from some website for female escorts. So of course I started digging through his email. There are SEVERAL messages exchanged through craigslist emails with hookers... dating all the way back to 2013. He was 18 then! There are pictures of himself he’s sent through these emails over the years, none of them being recent photos, locations but never HIS exact address were given (only his town/city or THEIR full address). Some of the old emails were from when he lived in Atlanta a couple of years ago and some are from where he lives currently. Also he was deployed in Japan half a year ago and some emails are even saying he was in Okinawa Japan and conversing with women from there and again in Peru where he just went for a week about a month ago. Emails with prostitutes in Peru... so obviously that just PROVED it was true all along ... when I told him what I’d seen he again had no idea (these messages go into a spam folder). And I laughed at him. Because you can’t deny any of that! I’m reading these messages plain as day! But he seemed very upset this was coming up again when he thought he had fixed it before. He’s very convinced someone’s stolen his identity and knows his every move... he’s contacted the FTC and his planning on talking to an IT tech on the military base he works at to see how this is possible. I just need some sort of proof here... I don’t know what to believe anymore. I trust him so much but this is really messing with my trust for him. Has ANYONE ever heard of anything like this happening? How could someone pretend to be him for the past 5 years and have pictures of him and know his location and address (but not door number) and back into his iPad and email and what would the point be? What would the other person be gaining from this?He wants to prove to me that it’s not him, and is taking steps to do that. Like filing a report and all... but I want someone to tell me how it’s possible!
Since you were very quick to find them, it seems unreasonable that he also would be unaware they are there.
Exactly. I know my phone, laptop, and iPad intimately. There's no logical explanation for not knowing I've been receiving messages from prostitutes for 5 years.
Just GTFO.
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Exactly. I know my phone, laptop, and iPad intimately. There's no logical explanation for not knowing I've been receiving messages from prostitutes for 5 years.
Just GTFO.
I agree. I'm open to listening to someone defend themselves; and if these were in a weird spam filter, I'd be willing to go through the process of reporting it. As unlikely as it seems that anyone would victimize him for years, since he was 18.
But if they were emails that were stacked along with his usual emails that he was answering and responding to, then no. It's outside the realm of possibility that someone hacked his identity for years, knew where he was when he was out of town, and that on top of that he didn't see them among his emails when it took you moments to see them.
Exactly. I know my phone, laptop, and iPad intimately. There's no logical explanation for not knowing I've been receiving messages from prostitutes for 5 years.
Just GTFO.
Seems to be a pattern.....He used to do it, but now someone is doing it in his name, but it's not him.
alrighty then!
Exactly. I know my phone, laptop, and iPad intimately. There's no logical explanation for not knowing I've been receiving messages from prostitutes for 5 years.
Just GTFO.
If I was doing this for 5 years, no way in hell Id have my device out in the open for my gf of 2 years to see.
This guy is either dumb as they get or he genuinely doesn't know.
I dont think his identity is being stolen, usually when people steal identities, its for monetary purposes. I cant see anyone getting off on emailing prostitutes in different cities that your man lived in at the time knowing its not them, thats weird and pointless.
And him contacting the FTC, what are they gonna do? FTC stops unfair, deceptive and fraudulent business practices by collecting complaints and conducting investigations, and suing companies.
If I was doing this for 5 years, no way in hell Id have my device out in the open for my gf of 2 years to see.
This guy is either dumb as they get or he genuinely doesn't know.
He hasn't checked his spam filter in years? Never wondered if he was missing any messages? Never emptied the 1000 a year out of there? She hears a ding and looks at the phone. I think that means text, she said "message from a random number".
So he never hears a ding and checks his phone to see these messages? It only happens when she's alone with his phone....those other 100 times over the years, no one was there to hear or check. Strange. You can't really think he doesn't know this has been happening all this time, but only she needs a couple minutes alone with the phone to discover it?
I don't think it's jaded or suspicious to walk away from things that don't make sense.
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) Every one of them believed it and said they were sorry but they had never seen him before. 
You can't really think he doesn't know this has been happening all this time, but only she needs a couple minutes alone with the phone to discover it?
