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A 9-year sharing of emotions, activities, hobbies, and etc. and leads to 5 years as one happy couple. We started dating since we're in college, and have a different educational course which is to be an engineer and a nurse. We merely have one grand dream and that is to finish school and work for the future preparation that we need to face. Even we got those natural conflict of lovers. And yes due to all hard works with persistent that we manage to get out with it, so basically we got it and lived the dream of our lives.
Years later, after the precious wedding, she got pregnant and obviously, it was the 2nd most important event that happened to us. Such a blessing that we've received from above, and most of all an additional member to our family. And now come to think of it, all that we worked for in terms of income and savings will now be used for the educational purposes and we're so much proud about it.
Time consistently passed on, and the same goes on each of our everyday moods. And what I literally mean is we barely have any fruitful conversation from now and then. And on our baby matter, we hired a baby maid. Basically, what I'm trying to say is that we're that busy enough on our jobs, and forgot the most important thing on life that can't be happened again, which is TIME.
We've been through a lot of discussions to solve this situation and basically were facing it until now and it keeps on running for a month already, we did most of all the possible solutions that we need to do. And still, we keep on a misunderstanding from both sides. We keep from getting unhealthy issues that seems like do not have any cure. And by that, we lead to a final conclusion and that is to have a legal separation or divorce?
I'm guilty enough to say that, this main issue is highly caused by no other than me. Since I'm the one who pushes this relationship at the very start. For the record, im that open enough to be helped by my family or by my wife. And the purpose of this post really appreciated for any comments and ideas. Thanks.
Why does this sound like it was run through google translator?
What specifically is your problem? Is it just time is passing too quickly and you're both busy with your careers and have lost sight of the importance of your marriage/family life? I'm having a hell of a time figuring out what you're saying. Specifics, please.
Why does this sound like it was run through google translator?
What specifically is your problem? Is it just time is passing too quickly and you're both busy with your careers and have lost sight of the importance of your marriage/family life? I'm having a hell of a time figuring out what you're saying. Specifics, please.
Because it is obviously written by a nnonative English-speaker.
How old is the baby?
Because the time and attention required by infant parenting (even if you hire childcare) very commonly creates a stress on couples' ability to deeply connect with one another with ease. It's textbook-common. When you have children, the relationship between the parents is no longer the sole focus. It has to share the stage. Most intellectually know this going in, but the reality of experiencing this is different than knowing it in the abstract.
Some marriages don't survive that adjustment. Others gradually adjust to the new normal of a profoundly life changing event. For some, they adjust with relative ease. Others take longer.
OP, it's hard to know what the problem is, exactly. It sounds like one issue is that you two are too involved with your jobs, not enough family time. Can you not change that? I also wonder, if perhaps you two were not a good match from the start, since you mention "lovers' conflicts", as if it's normal to have frequent conflicts. Perhaps there were problems then, even before the marriage, that were never addressed, and that much later came to the fore, and have threatened the relationship....?
All we can do is guess. Perhaps you could be more clear about what the core issues are.
I have to admit, when I first saw the title of the thread, for a moment I thought I was in the Unexplained Mysteries and Paranomal forum.
I, too, am unclear on the specific question.
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