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Interesting. Yes. He has HUGE family issues and a bit of PTSD because of it
Interesting. So, he doesn't feel a need to address his huge family issues, nor to get treatment for his PTSD? He's ok with just living with all that?
*whew* That sounds like somewhat of a self-destructive, or counter-productive at the least, choice for him to make. Maybe if he experiences enough breakups due to this issue, he'll finally see the need to get help, someday, down the road.
How many gf's has he had in the past? How did those relationships work out? Well, obviously, they didn't last, but did they fail because of this same problem? Has there been a pattern, do you know?
Interesting. So, he doesn't feel a need to address his huge family issues, nor to get treatment for his PTSD? He's ok with just living with all that?
*whew* That sounds like somewhat of a self-destructive, or counter-productive at the least, choice for him to make. Maybe if he experiences enough breakups due to this issue, he'll finally see the need to get help, someday, down the road.
How many gf's has he had in the past? How did those relationships work out? Well, obviously, they didn't last, but did they fail because of this same problem? Has there been a pattern, do you know?
He has had many relationships. Not sure how they all ended. But I'm sure a lot of his dates couldn't take his shenanigans.
This guy isn't just immature. His behavior seems downright creepy to me. I would be severely weirded out if a random woman added me on Facebook and started going through all of my old photos and commenting on them.
If I were in your position I would insist that he see a therapist/psychologist or else leave him.
Interesting. So, he doesn't feel a need to address his huge family issues, nor to get treatment for his PTSD? He's ok with just living with all that?
Ya' know, obviously I don't know whether PTSD is really an issue, but these terms are tossed around so casually and usually erroneously in these forums
A "bit" PTSD????
Sorry, but I know a few people that really do suffer from it and they go through a lot more agony than a few personality quirks.Using the term so casually makes light of their suffering.
Thinking about it. You are right. I'm just not okay with it. He won't get help. He won't stop and it makes me very nervous. It's hard to leave because I love him, and so it's going to be extremely difficult for a year or so (the amount of time it takes to get over someone..) I honestly believe this kind of behavior leads to cheating. A friend told me it happened to her and as soon as she dumped him - he went after the other girls.
You might feel fine sooner than that since you’re the one who has decided you’re incompatible. Once your perspective changes from love to loathing, you’ll be able to move on without looking back. He’s not the one for you.
He has shown that this is him and he is not changing.
Do you accept him or not?
Don't post here 2 years later in tears because he slept with Manuela from down the corner.
Okay Grumpy.
I have come across more men who have these issues with women. I just happen to be in the class of female shmucks whose man is flaunting, flirting and attention-whoring it up like an Instagram bimbo.
No. Men don't "show their cards".. in fact they can be very secretive. Same with women.
And people are hurting on this site. It's not as black and white as what you say.
I would rather go to a sports bar and watch hockey while he goes to Micheals craft store. He is the one who makes all the pretty selfie posts while I find cat memes amusing. So no. I'm not making things complicated. I have an issue, like most people (who date trouble) and need advice from disinterested parties to help get theirt head on straight.
He has shown that this is him and he is not changing.
Do you accept him or not?
Don't post here 2 years later in tears because he slept with Manuela from down the corner.
Nope, guys hide stuff, put on a good show in the beginning, and so on as often as women do.
As for the boyfriend, he seems pretty mixed up and I'd bet there's even more that he doesn't tell the OP... "coming clean" on something smaller is a pretty typical M.O. for cheaters or potential cheaters. I'd be running, OP.
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