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I was getting to know this woman , she's single. I asked what she was looking for in a guy, and she said that she found if she actually told a man this. They tend not to be themselves.
Thinks that's kind of a generalization on her part?
Everyone tends to do this to a degree when trying to please someone else’s sensibilities.
The act in itself IS altering your behavior to accommodate another’s.
What she is trying to say is “I would rather people just be themselves and let the rest work itself out” that’s not really a generalization, it’s just an approach.
I was getting to know this woman , she's single. I asked what she was looking for in a guy, and she said that she found if she actually told a man this. They tend not to be themselves.
The way around this seeming dilemma, of people trying to mold themselves to what she says she's looking for, is to give a vague answer full of generalities and basic traits everyone already knows that people want. "Employed, stable, career-oriented, thoughtful" blah blah. Generic stuff. Or she could throw them a curve ball, by saying, "I like men who can chill and be themselves, be genuine." If she wants to then amp up their anxiety level, she can add, "I can tell a phony from a mile away."
lol. The first date, as psychological warfare. IDK, it sounds like, if she's getting guys who are trying to play to the audience, she's picking the wrong guys. Or maybe she's projecting that onto them. How does she know, whether what she's observing is fake or if it's who they really are?
I was getting to know this woman , she's single. I asked what she was looking for in a guy, and she said that she found if she actually told a man this. They tend not to be themselves.
Thinks that's kind of a generalization on her part?
The women you are going to meet are going to say what they're looking for a man is, ''hard-working, honest, loyal, devoted, caring, dependable,'' etc etc, and that's all fine and dandy, but what you should be concerned with is how to be an enjoyable and exciting enough company for her to want to sleep with you. After that, if you like her and want to date her, start worrying about what she is looking for in a partner.
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