My husband is emotionally abusive, an alcoholic, refused to get help and on more than one occasion has threatened to "knock me out". This caused me to spiral into depression until I met my coworker.
He was new, made me feel as if my opinion actually mattered and treated me like a human being. Something I felt I desperately needed to feel. I developed a crush on him, I knew it was wrong so I distanced myself.
As I distanced myself it came out that my husband gambled some money of ours that I was saving for a rainy day. Money that was very important to me. I was devastated, I vented to coworker and he told me that I deserved better and comforted me.
Not too long after we admitted feelings for each other. He showered me with compliments and I just fell in love with him. He made me smile, laugh, cared about what I said and was sweet. I left my husband and moved in with him. It was pure happiness or so I thought for a few months, but I realize he's got some deep rooted issues.
He used to be addicted to drugs and has a criminal history, he drinks and has flipped out on me for little things. I also found out that he sent photos of my butt to his friends by snooping through his phone. He does no housework and expects me to do everything and cook for him. He also has a temper just like my husband but not as bad, now I feel like I'm stuck. I felt like I needed a soft place to land and don't know if I should stay or leave. There are times where he could be nice and sweet and tells me he loves me. I'm just so confused and don't want to go through all of this again. It just sucks because he is good to me most of the time and doesn't drink as much as my husband did and has never laid a hand on me. I do love him. Both him and my husband started out sweet and then all of this just came out.
My family says I need to leave him, that he's bad news and that he is just using me for his own needs and that he doesn't love me. My head feels so messed up, I know the rational thing would be to leave him but I'm finding it so hard. I feel like I have no one to turn to
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