Fighting means you love each other

[augiedogie]

Fighting means people love each other? I dont think so.

[Metaphysique]

I mean, disagreement is one thing, but if we're fighting, we're incompatible. I've not experienced that in a relationship. My husband and I don't fight and there's nothing major or serious we disagree on.

[TabulaRasa]

Gottman's stance, in general, is that disagreeing is completely normal and authentic, arguing one's point is absolutely within the normal bounds of communication, but that there are healthy, respectful, and productive ways to disagree. Knock-down, drag out fights fraught with cheap shots, personal attacks, wildly inappropriate personalization, massive generalizations are not that.

But working through disagreement effectively DOES strengthen relationships.

[Dsss1106]

My ex and never had even one fight ,little disagreement here and there but that was about it.

When i didnt like something i was just thinking i dont want to be that person who tells him what to do. And he felt the sam way. We ended becouse when we said we are bothered by something it never seem serious enough and it turned out we just kept hurting each other and not dealing with it.

But now im happier then ever and I fight with my current bf. We fight decent amount of time sometimes we cry even but we end up laughing and hugging each other. But after every fight we understand each other more. Thats the way we express our self we are both explosive personalites but we never say anything to hurt each other in there fights.

I came to conclusion that i never cared enough about my previous relationship to actually fight about something. Saying whatever and waving away with your hand is not healthy.

If you have a need to yell at someone do it but be carefull, anger can make you say something you dont mean. so if you cant have a disagreement without raising your voice (but being rational at the same time ) its normal alot of people cant

Personally if i dont yell when im angry and make it all come out fast i cry as a baby trying to explain something.It depends on your personality