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You're not over-reacting and you should probably end the relationship and move on, since there's plenty of men who won't lie to you and aren't still hung-up on their ex-girlfriends.
It seems like Kayla is trying to keep him always ready as her back-up option, and it's working.
Agreed.
OP, your BF is Kayla's second choice and you are his alternate option. She broke up with HIM and HE was upset about it, not the other way around. He doesn't respect your request for him to refrain from mentioning her, and they keep in frequent contact with each other, complete with hookups when one or the other is single/taking a break. That doesn't sound like a guy who is over his ex.
IMO, if Kayla gave him the slightest indication she'd like to get back together, he'd dump you in a heartbeat without looking back.
Move on and find someone who'll respect and make YOU a priority in his life.
Yikes. I dont like this one bit, especially the fact that the other girl frequently comes up in conversation. I have a lot of close friends but I rarely ever bring them up when talking to someone who doesnt know em..
To me, the main "red flag" that I see, is that he still mentions her a lot to you. That would tell ME (if I were in your shoes) that she's still on his mind a lot.
So...does he have diarrhea of the mouth, and every thought that pops in his head must exit through his mouth? (And do you want to live with the fact that this woman is on your boyfriend's mind all the time?) OR, does he mention her so often to show YOU that he can do whatever he wants, and he's a MAN and no one can tell him what to do?
At any rate, whatever his reasoning, YOU'RE his girlfriend, and there's something wrong that he has to talk about her all the time to you.
You're supposed to be his priority.
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