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Consider getting out of your current relationship and spending time with yourself. Sounds like you want to leave one loser for another. Don't be stupid. Four kids out of marriage? No thanks. You'd be the babysitter or the slave that goes to work while he stays home and watches his kids...and it'll get worse when you start to breed with him. You're 25. Go enjoy your life. Get your head straight. Get healthy. Then find a man worthy of your investment (or not).
When a post starts with “before you judge me” you already know the poster in question is fully aware of what they are doing and have done. I can’t sugarcoat what you “want” to hear.
You made a mess, left it sitting and walked over to a new spot and created another before cleaning up the first one.
You need some time alone away from the mess you helped create to sort your head out and start thinking healthy again.
All the advice in the world can’t make you start thinking for yourself....you have to be willing to help yourself for that to happen.
You’re fully aware of the circumstances you have placed yourself within, time to stop acting ignorant of it.
You can’t “fix” other people, you only have the power to fix yourself.
Last edited by rego00123; 07-19-2018 at 10:18 AM..
What a mess. You should have known he was a flake when he had 4 kids with a woman he wasn't married to. And then started messing around with a married 22 year old, half his age. How ethical.
Both of you need to step back and try to understand why you are so hollow inside.
This, and also, you cannot fix your drunken husband, so stop trying. Get yourself to Al Anon and get some tools to leave him.
You are wasting your life on men who are bad for you. Some counciling to figure out why you make such bad decisions is definitely in order.
An alcoholic's first and only love is the bottle. Their partner is a distant second.
An alcoholic will most probably not off himself. He will go to the bottle for consolation. Now, dead in a ditch may come as a result of hitting the bottle too hard, then getting into an activity that may lead to death, or just purely because of alcohol poisoning. But, for an alcoholic to get a gun and point it towards themselves, it's not exactly how they operate.
I agree with everyone who suggested Al-Anon. And divorcing your husband and spending time getting yourself together before you get into another relationship. You’re young and that would be the greatest gift you could give yourself.
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