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Old 07-18-2018, 10:20 AM
 
Location: Northern Wisconsin
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Divorce rate is well past 60%. Plan on her dumping you at some time. And keep in mind, she'll probably try to get what she deserves in her next divorce.
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Old 07-18-2018, 10:35 AM
 
Location: RI, MA, VT, WI, IL, CA, IN (that one sucked), KY
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Divorce rate is well past 60%. Plan on her dumping you at some time. And keep in mind, she'll probably try to get what she deserves in her next divorce.


Good heavens. First people promoting the 50% divorce rate (it was never that high) and now 60%?


Criminy.


Divorce rates for first marriages peaked well below 50% in the early 80s and have dropped since then.
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Old 07-18-2018, 10:38 AM
 
Location: southern california
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Translation of we grew apart
Travel a lot is a result not a cause

Usually getting on each other’s nerves involved deeper stuff here is one —
Before marriage —a woman lusts after sex and believes money is the root of all evil
After the wedding it flips
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Old 07-18-2018, 10:48 AM
 
Location: TN/NC
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The person you are 30 may very well not be who you are at 55.

My parents are married, but they're now 60, and mom has changed dramatically in ten years. At 50, she was fairly active. While always homebodies, it wasn't that uncommon for them to go out of town on a long weekend or something. Today, she comes in and just watches network TV from pretty much the time she gets off work until bedtime. She has no interest in doing laundry during the week, cleaning the house, or even making herself a decent dinner. The grocery store is four miles from her office, and she won't go. While she has health problems, a good bit of it is just pure laziness.

I wouldn't blame dad for being frustrated with her.
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Old 07-18-2018, 11:26 AM
 
Location: Middle America
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Divorce rate is well past 60%. Plan on her dumping you at some time. And keep in mind, she'll probably try to get what she deserves in her next divorce.
It is not.
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Old 07-18-2018, 12:01 PM
 
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Divorce rate is well past 60%. Plan on her dumping you at some time. And keep in mind, she'll probably try to get what she deserves in her next divorce.
Um, no it isn't. The divorce rate never was that high and it has declined over the past 35 years. Granted, that's partly because the people most likely to divorce never bother to get married in the first place these days--but I still hate it when people spout statistics that are completely wrong and were never accurate at any time.

https://www.nytimes.com/2014/12/02/u...-lives-on.html

The divorce rate peaked in the 1970s and early 1980s and has been declining for the three decades since.

About 70 percent of marriages that began in the 1990s reached their 15th anniversary (excluding those in which a spouse died), up from about 65 percent of those that began in the 1970s and 1980s. Those who married in the 2000s are so far divorcing at even lower rates. If current trends continue, nearly two-thirds of marriages will never involve a divorce, according to data from Justin Wolfers, a University of Michigan economist.
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Old 07-18-2018, 12:23 PM
 
Location: SoCal again
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No matter what she would have said, you would have probably opened a thread about it.


If she would have told you he sucked in bed, you would be posting here, wondering if you should be concerned.
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Old 07-18-2018, 12:48 PM
 
Location: Central Virginia
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Now this isn't too much of a concern for me, but should it be?
Nah.

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I mean, could she do the same to me?
Sure. There are really no guarantees.

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Is this a sign of a person who cannot commit to long term
Nope.
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Old 07-18-2018, 12:52 PM
 
Location: Middle America
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OP, are you really asking if you should be worried that a person who was married for 25 years "can't commit to long-term?"
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Old 07-18-2018, 01:30 PM
 
Location: Central IL
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The person you are 30 may very well not be who you are at 55.

My parents are married, but they're now 60, and mom has changed dramatically in ten years. At 50, she was fairly active. While always homebodies, it wasn't that uncommon for them to go out of town on a long weekend or something. Today, she comes in and just watches network TV from pretty much the time she gets off work until bedtime. She has no interest in doing laundry during the week, cleaning the house, or even making herself a decent dinner. The grocery store is four miles from her office, and she won't go. While she has health problems, a good bit of it is just pure laziness.

I wouldn't blame dad for being frustrated with her.
And dad is the same as when he was 25? Can he shop for groceries and cook? Let's share the full story if you're really trying to make a point.
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