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I'm not talking about every person someone has been with. I thought that was pretty clear.
Your words:
"And if you end up with someone who is not on that short list, that short list will always be in the back of your mind, haunting your bedroom, even if just subconsciously."
I'm not talking about every person someone has been with. I thought that was pretty clear.
I understood, but the image you conveyed could still make your bedroom pretty crowded. And I think your choice of the word haunted also overstates your point. I suspect that most people who have more than a couple of partners have longer term committed relationships with people who may not have been at the top of the list you imagine. Unless someone makes sex their primary criteria, with all the other things you'd want to consider for a long term partner it's more than a theoretical possibility that one or two people from your past might have been better sex partners. There's a lot to be said for the emotional boost you get from sex with someone you're really connected with emotionally, but lets say it's somewhat likely that on some level a past sex partner might have been better or the best. That doesn't have to haunt you. It could just be a part of your experience that prompts a thought or an emotion from time to time that you recognize, process, and move on from. No action and certainly no consternation required.
I understood, but the image you conveyed could still make your bedroom pretty crowded. And I think your choice of the word haunted also overstates your point. I suspect that most people who have more than a couple of partners have longer term committed relationships with people who may not have been at the top of the list you imagine. Unless someone makes sex their primary criteria, with all the other things you'd want to consider for a long term partner it's more than a theoretical possibility that one or two people from your past might have been better sex partners. There's a lot to be said for the emotional boost you get from sex with someone you're really connected with emotionally, but lets say it's somewhat likely that on some level a past sex partner might have been better or the best. That doesn't have to haunt you. It could just be a part of your experience that prompts a thought or an emotion from time to time that you recognize, process, and move on from. No action and certainly no consternation required.
So "haunting" was over stating my case? OK, I'll have to have a word or two with my editor.
Everyone you date is a liar. You're a liar. Therefore the earlier stages of dating are not to get to know each other but to be around each other long enough that you're comfortable enough to let your guard down and stop lying about who you are.
Absolutely not. It's not lying to not reveal everything all at once. I've never lied to anyone that I've gone out with.
You know.... this thread is about unpopular opinions.... I think it is implied that you don't need to agree with the opinions of other (hence unpopular) much less argue with them.
I think it was the "always" that torpedoed the validity of that point.
Well maybe some tweaking is in order but I still think there is a valid point in there somewhere.
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