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Originally Posted by hopeitsnevertoolate
You mean for you. I'm getting married in a few months and I knew he was the guy for me in a matter of minutes. We didn't rush out to Vegas to get married but it was clear that the search was over.
I felt that several times. Finding the person that is right for you, and making it work, are MILES, heck, often continents, apart.
When is it appropriate to have "The Relationship" question? I have been dating a guy for 6 weeks and he clearly seems like the one for me. But I think he doesn't take the whole thing seriously, it's just having some hot girl for fun maybe. I want to sit him down and ask where this is all going because I want to get married and settle down one day. But I also don't want to annoy him and my hunch is it's a little early for that. Any thoughts welcome.
I felt that several times. Finding the person that is right for you, and making it work, are MILES, heck, often continents, apart.
Anyone can be negative. I found the right guy after an eternity of not really looking since my divorce 12 years ago. We'll make it work, or we won't. If you sit on the sidelines with a negative attitude, you'll never win.
Six weeks? I'm not even sure that six months will be long enough to know for sure.
To know for sure, what? That you want to spend time exclusively with him in order TO know for sure? No one is saying you have to know if you want to get engaged or married in 6 weeks or even if it is love within 6 weeks.
Such extremes - some people won't go on a single date without knowing it is exclusive from that first moment and others can't imagine being exclusive for 6 months?
A lot of this should remain unspoken. Go with the flow. Keep your expectations in check. Pay attention to how he treats you.
The infatuation should start to falter around the 3-4 month line. You’ll have seen a good sample of his bad side within a year. He’ll let you know if he’s all in or not. If you’re not happy with it, don’t waste your time beyond this point.
Don’t base your relationship on the high you experience during the first few months. That’s almost always too good to be true.
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