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She told me before that if we ever broke up she would still want to be friends with me. Eventually we did break up and it wasn't on a bad note we were both just really stressed out.
A few days later i told her maybe its best we dont become friends anymore and i thought she would agree. Instead she told me to please give it some time because she wants to be close friends with me in the future. She also added randomly that she feels really guilty for breaking up with me.
I felt like she didn't have to add that part but she wants to stay friends even after breaking with me?
I dont really understand what she might be thinking
She told me before that if we ever broke up she would still want to be friends with me. Eventually we did break up and it wasn't on a bad note we were both just really stressed out.
A few days later i told her maybe its best we dont become friends anymore and i thought she would agree. Instead she told me to please give it some time because she wants to be close friends with me in the future. She also added randomly that she feels really guilty for breaking up with me.
I felt like she didn't have to add that part but she wants to stay friends even after breaking with me?
I dont really understand what she might be thinking
Nah thats her ego talking. She just doesn't want to think there's somebody out there mad at her because she broke up with him.
If YOU think you shouldn;t be friends then don't do it.
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She told me before that if we ever broke up she would still want to be friends with me. Eventually we did break up and it wasn't on a bad note we were both just really stressed out.
A few days later i told her maybe its best we dont become friends anymore and i thought she would agree. Instead she told me to please give it some time because she wants to be close friends with me in the future. She also added randomly that she feels really guilty for breaking up with me.
I felt like she didn't have to add that part but she wants to stay friends even after breaking with me?
I dont really understand what she might be thinking
Break all contact immediately. This woman ain't gonna have no respect for the boundaries of friendship if she is trying to manipulate you already. Once you go romantic, no getting the genie back in the lamp to a regular friendship.
OP, it depends on how you feel about not having that extra closeness when you are more than friends. If I really cared about the woman it would tear me up to be with her but not be able to kiss her and touch and hold hands. If you feel like that about her then I suggest you exit the relationship and go back to fishing at the pond.
She told me before that if we ever broke up she would still want to be friends with me. Eventually we did break up and it wasn't on a bad note we were both just really stressed out.
A few days later i told her maybe its best we dont become friends anymore and i thought she would agree. Instead she told me to please give it some time because she wants to be close friends with me in the future. She also added randomly that she feels really guilty for breaking up with me.
I felt like she didn't have to add that part but she wants to stay friends even after breaking with me?
I dont really understand what she might be thinking
honestly i dont know. She was about as confused as i was when we broke up. i still like her of course but i'm just gonna not talk to her for a few months and see what happens.
It sounds more to me not that "we broke up" but that she broke with you. That's a clue.
Actually the woman I've dated most this year (bit more than couple dozen dates) contacted me (we've been apart couple months) and it appears we will be dating again. The almost impossible does happen, but rarely. I'll date her if that works out but I'll be wary of our past relationship. I might be willing to friend zone her if she is willing to pay her share at expensive restaurants I like to frequent. (I'll pick up the tab for pho, etc.).
I suggest you do not put yourself in for that, but if you are a glutton for punishment, go for it. You have maybe 1 in 1000 chance of success, but that isn't zero.
I got over my infatuation with the above named lady and I think I have a pretty good handle on my emotions. It wouldn't break my heart if it doesn't turn into love. We had a lot of fun in Zumba and yoga classes, we belong to the same gym.
A few days later i told her maybe its best we dont become friends anymore
This is all that is important....
I say this as a person who is still close friends with a previous GF (we considered marriage). There has to be a mutual want/need to start over from scratch and build a friendship... a willingness to want the other to be happy... and acknowledge that its the place in life that you cannot provide.
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