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Old 07-24-2018, 07:07 PM
 
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Why do some guys become life-long orbiters?


I don't even understand it. What kind of gratification are they getting out of it?


Once I have officially rejected a guy and then he BEGS me to continue to be his friend, I try to be as boring as possible so that he doesn't have the desire to keep on talking to me. But NO, that doesn't work either.... they still would rather talk to my boring ass. Anything to keep orbiting!

Why?????
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Old 07-24-2018, 07:19 PM
 
Location: The ghetto
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Maybe you're not as boring as you think you are.
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Old 07-24-2018, 07:23 PM
 
Location: IN>Germany>ND>OH>TX>CA>Currently NoVa and a Vacation Lake House in PA
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You could always do the mature thing and tell him you're not interested in any more contact with him.
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Old 07-24-2018, 07:26 PM
 
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You could always do the mature thing and tell him you're not interested in any more contact with him.

This seems rude and unkind to say to someone you already know who asks to be your friend.


I should mention that this guy has a history of being friends with women he likes. Whereas I do not. I don't know how to play the friends game.
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Old 07-24-2018, 07:27 PM
 
Location: South Bay Native
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You could always do the mature thing and tell him you're not interested in any more contact with him.
Indeed. This should deter him from further contact, right?
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Old 07-24-2018, 07:31 PM
 
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Indeed. This should deter him from further contact, right?

It would but I don't know if I could bring myself to say it. Could I just ignore him?
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Old 07-24-2018, 07:32 PM
 
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When you say “life long orbiters”, are they not dating and having relationships with other women during this time?
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Old 07-24-2018, 07:36 PM
 
Location: Huntersville/Charlotte, NC and Washington, DC
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They have no shame, no options, and no life. I have two of the three and would never entertain orbiting a woman once she has rejected me.
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Old 07-24-2018, 07:45 PM
 
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I don't know how to play the friends game.
You don't know how to be friends?
I have no idea what "the friends game" is

If you don't like him, don't hang out with him. Easy as that
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Old 07-24-2018, 07:49 PM
 
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When you say “life long orbiters”, are they not dating and having relationships with other women during this time?

I have one that has been doing it for 30 years and he has had plenty of women along the way. Plenty. He's been the only one in my entire life that I haven't been able to get rid of, but it appears that I may be acquiring another one.




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They have no shame, no options, and no life. I have two of the three and would never entertain orbiting a woman once she has rejected me.

Good for you.
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