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I'm 28 and I've never had a girlfriend, a date or a kiss. I'm used to it by now and I can't imagine my life ever including another person. My days are usually incredibly busy and I'm glad I don't have to deal with expectations from someone else.
Apart from that, I don't believe my personality would be good for a relationships (I've got a bit of a temper under stress). I'm absolutely average lookswise even though I go to the gym 4/5 times a week and I dress smart (I actually wear a suit everyday, I work in banking).
There are certain days, however, when I feel sort of a primal urge to take care of someone or be good to someone - and not like in a friendship. It's a strange desire to be close to someone. I'm not sure if this is more common around Christmas time even though I do tend to think more often about the girls I've liked around this time.
I'm 28 and I've never had a girlfriend, a date or a kiss. I'm used to it by now and I can't imagine my life ever including another person. My days are usually incredibly busy and I'm glad I don't have to deal with expectations from someone else.
Apart from that, I don't believe my personality would be good for a relationships (I've got a bit of a temper under stress). I'm absolutely average lookswise even though I go to the gym 4/5 times a week and I dress smart (I actually wear a suit everyday, I work in banking).
There are certain days, however, when I feel sort of a primal urge to take care of someone or be good to someone - and not like in a friendship. It's a strange desire to be close to someone. I'm not sure if this is more common around Christmas time even though I do tend to think more often about the girls I've liked around this time.
It's probably the Christmas season because everyone is with family and exchanging gifts. Honestly, I have no one in my life right now. Not even a friend. Nowhere near as lonely as I thought I would be.
Also, to be honest, I don't think I'm cut out for relationships either. But I don't know for sure. You're not necessarily missing anything without a relationship and being single has some advantages like the higher likelihood of peace. Also, it is very easy to fall into bad company and being single is better than being in a bad relationship.
OP, you asked, "Is it normal to desire someone once in a while?" Sure if that's what YOU want. Conversely, it's also perfectly fine if you choose to live your life without a romantic partner. Some people need or desire a romantic partner/relationship 24/7/365, and some don't. Maybe you want a partner who is open to a "part-time" relationship, one where you both are committed to each other and monogamous, but don't live together or see each other daily/often.
Based on your written words, I sense you do want to experience closeness with a romantic partner. If you do, strike out and try to connect with someone. Please don't let lack of experience stop you. Nobody knows what to do in any area of their lives, until they learn.
Remember: Inch by inch, life's a cinch; yard by yard, life is hard.
No really. It’s the birds n the bees. You know it’s normal, you’re supposed to want to be a couple and make a family.
These are strange times I think, there’s no clear path besides: “you do you”. I guess I’m relieved I grew up at a time with at least a guideline and finish line to strive for.
Human beings have an innate desire to pair up and mate. Mankind has laws that state it "should be for life".
I was 37 and my spouse ( other half OH for short)was 41 before we got together, and soon got married. First marriage for both of us.
Prior to that we both had had relationship s but they were temporary or turned into one night stand.
So we were quite pleased that it blossomed into long term relationship. We are now 56 and 60. Next year is 20 years together, 18 married.
One of my former coworker s was 46 and wife 40 when they got married, first for either. They actually met through a dating app.
If you choose to get on a dating app, be sure you've got a "dating" app, not a "hookup app" though!
They say "there's someone for everyone", and keep in mind "beautiful people" usually don't stay married.so being"ordinary" is not a detriment, unless all you are interested in is the most beautiful woman in the room, who might not give you the time of day.
There MAY be a few things you can do to improve your chances.
If overweight at all, lose the excess weight.
If you wear glasses, maybe try contact s.
If your clothes are "dull", maybe upgrade your wardrobe.
Don't go out much? Improve chances by going to church, bowling, volunteer at something, etc to meet more people.it doesn't have to be a bar,but there's that too.
If you meet a woman, be honest that you've never been with a woman. It may help her to understand any awkward moments. Remember "awkward firsts" improve with experience.
So don't give up yet, most 20s Don't marry so much now anyway. You just gotta get out there and mix and mingle and let it be known you are available. There might just be a single woman out there in the same boat, just waiting for her prince charming!
Among other things, relationships, including reproduction, are a mirror of one's own consciousness. Each individual needs, at the least, to look in the mirror once in a while (desire someone).
Put another way, though consciousness has its independent life - and it's beautiful -, at the same time it is utterly dependent on the external environment and keenly ... well ... conscious of it.
One of the functions of consciousness is to play at least some role in taking care of others.
These are strange times I think, there’s no clear path besides: “you do you”. I guess I’m relieved I grew up at a time with at least a guideline and finish line to strive for.
My guideline and finish line IS "you do you." Not someone else telling me, "you do me." My guideline is, "is it what I want?" and my finish line is, "am I happy living my life this way?" I'm relieved I grew up at a time when it's more accepted for a person to live the way they want to and that works best for them, without so many people telling them they're wrong because there's a "life script" and they need to follow that one narrow path.
That's how you end up with people miserable in marriages with a bunch of kids they never actually wanted, who possibly gave up what they really wanted in life to do "what you are supposed to do"...
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