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Old 07-25-2018, 04:55 PM
 
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It's it's beginning to be clear to me that most meetup groups that are specifically geared towards singles tend to attract a boatload of women and not very many men. Now, I know why women go to these meetup's to meet men, but I am wondering why men don't want to go to these meetup's. Is it because men don't like meeting women in groups? It is because you think there will be a bunch of ugly women there? Is it because you think there will be too much competition and don't want to bother? Why do men seem to prefer online dating to meeting women in singles meetup's?
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Old 07-25-2018, 06:01 PM
 
Location: RI, MA, VT, WI, IL, CA, IN (that one sucked), KY
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It is because the activity itself isn't appealing. I'm not going to do any activity just to hope to meet a woman.


When I'm going out to meet someone 1x1 from OLD I already know I want to meet them as we've had a discussion. It's far more efficient and has a much better chance of a connection.
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Old 07-25-2018, 06:05 PM
 
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It is because the activity itself isn't appealing. I'm not going to do any activity just to hope to meet a woman.


When I'm going out to meet someone 1x1 from OLD I already know I want to meet them as we've had a discussion. It's far more efficient and has a much better chance of a connection.

That's what I thought! Thank you!
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Old 07-25-2018, 06:09 PM
 
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Wait, Meetup.com is still around? I thought it flopped about 8 years back. Back then I was trolling around the Denver groups and there were no actually, in person, meetings.. just a little online chatter that "group owners" wanted to charge for. Where I am now, I have to go more than 50 miles to find even 1 group, and most of those look dead as I click through them.



Soooo... that'd be One reason why guys aren't doing what you suggest.
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Old 07-25-2018, 06:24 PM
 
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I went to a Meetup event last weekend and there were some guys there. It wasn’t a singles event but some of them were single. One guy has sent me a few messages since the meetup, but he has a girlfriend so maybe he’s just being nice.
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Old 07-25-2018, 06:24 PM
 
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It is because the activity itself isn't appealing. I'm not going to do any activity just to hope to meet a woman.


When I'm going out to meet someone 1x1 from OLD I already know I want to meet them as we've had a discussion. It's far more efficient and has a much better chance of a connection.
I couldn't give you +rep because must spread it around...

Exactly! I'd like to go to meet-up events single or otherwise but they never have any interesting events that are within my reasonable travel range, and I'm in Los Angeles! Granted LA is a big city and I'm not going to drive to South LA or East LA for an event, but the event has to have at least some interest for me beyond being a flesh market.

And right again, who needs that? OLD is working fine for me. Don't fix what ain't broke.

I'm thinking of starting a meet-up group of my own, just because I have an interest that I would like to find other people interested too. I don't care if men or women show up, and if some attractive single women show I wouldn't mind.

But nah, not as a way to specifically meet women.
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Old 07-25-2018, 06:28 PM
 
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I couldn't give you +rep because must spread it around...

Exactly! I'd like to go to meet-up events single or otherwise but they never have any interesting events that are within my reasonable travel range, and I'm in Los Angeles! Granted LA is a big city and I'm not going to drive to South LA or East LA for an event, but the event has to have at least some interest for me beyond being a flesh market.

And right again, who needs that? OLD is working fine for me. Don't fix what ain't broke.

I'm thinking of starting a meet-up group of my own, just because I have an interest that I would like to find other people interested too. I don't care if men or women show up, and if some attractive single women show I wouldn't mind.

But nah, not as a way to specifically meet women.

Enlightening.
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Old 07-25-2018, 06:34 PM
 
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I went to a Meetup event last weekend and there were some guys there. It wasn’t a singles event but some of them were single. One guy has sent me a few messages since the meetup, but he has a girlfriend so maybe he’s just being nice.

Yeah I'm specifically talking about meetup events geared towards singles for them to just get together and hang out. My belief is that men don't really go to these, but they would go to events centered around a specific activity that they are interested in. For meeting women, they go for online dating sites above all else.
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Old 07-25-2018, 06:38 PM
 
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It's it's beginning to be clear to me that most meetup groups that are specifically geared towards singles tend to attract a boatload of women and not very many men. Now, I know why women go to these meetup's to meet men, but I am wondering why men don't want to go to these meetup's. Is it because men don't like meeting women in groups? It is because you think there will be a bunch of ugly women there? Is it because you think there will be too much competition and don't want to bother? Why do men seem to prefer online dating to meeting women in singles meetup's?

Convenience I would only assume.
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Old 07-25-2018, 06:47 PM
 
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Convenience I would only assume.
That, and the fact that the women on there are at least looking to date and are single (most of them at least lol).
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