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Location: RI, MA, VT, WI, IL, CA, IN (that one sucked), KY
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Originally Posted by bikegal
avoid people. how is one supposed to 'change', if people only tell them how great they are? and how are they not supposed to think that people suck, and they must have just all been *******s, if no one has the decency and maturity to be honest and not get into a relationship if they don't have the balls to end it properly.
You need to change you. It has nothing to do with other people. And you're going to need profession help it seems.
Bikegirl, do you tend to have other interpersonal problems in your daily life? With coworkers? Family? Friends? I suspect your prickly, judgy, mistrustful attitude follows you everywhere.
WAsn't she the one who didn't work or did some minor freelancing at home, living with her dad and not having a car or am I mistaken? Early-Mid 30s?
Okay we get that "normally I don't do this", but you did this time and it's creepy. Maybe, just maybe, he was done talking and just want to hang online quietly? I am sorry to say this but this is why men run..he's a free agent and a grown man so if he wants to be online let him.
I think honestly you have gotten some good advice here. You really need to chill.
yeah...well every other time I'm the "nice" one, that people say is so great...so obviously that wasn't the problem then, so being the "nice" one just seems to get you screwed, so I figure they must like crappy people...but obviously that doesn't work either, so...
You need to change you. It has nothing to do with other people. And you're going to need profession help it seems.
and how am I supposed to know what I'm supposed to 'change', if people only tell you how great you are...and what am I supposed to tell the shrink...well people say I'm so great and all this stuff, but I'm still single, so...
and how am I supposed to know what I'm supposed to 'change', if people only tell you how great you are...and what am I supposed to tell the shrink...well people say I'm so great and all this stuff, but I'm still single, so...
Who tells you that you are so great? Guys who want to sleep with you?
Here are just a few reasons you are single: You do not have a car. You do not have a job. You live with your dad. Somewhere previously you said you do not shower much. You are overreacting and acting out.
About the shrink - tell him about that guy and your reaction.
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yeah...well every other time I'm the "nice" one, that people say is so great...so obviously that wasn't the problem then, so being the "nice" one just seems to get you screwed, so I figure they must like crappy people...but obviously that doesn't work either, so...
Professional guidance can help you put this into perspective.
Who tells you that you are so great? Guys who want to sleep with you?
Here are just a few reasons you are single: You do not have a car. You do not have a job. You live with your dad. Somewhere previously you said you do not shower much. You are overreacting and acting out.
About the shrink - tell him about that guy and your reaction.
guys that I was dating - and it wasn't until afterwards. and they knew all that from the beginning, so why would they want to date someone, or tell them they're so great, if they had an issue? (and obviously I do shower if I"m seeing someone...why would someone want to date me, or say how great I am, if I stunk?)
and if it is just guys who want that, then why would this guy be any different?
Location: RI, MA, VT, WI, IL, CA, IN (that one sucked), KY
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and how am I supposed to know what I'm supposed to 'change', if people only tell you how great you are...and what am I supposed to tell the shrink...well people say I'm so great and all this stuff, but I'm still single, so...
It's not about other people. It's not about dating. It's about treating you and your depression.
well, so that night, as usual, he said "talk to you tomorrow " but then he didn't, until 2 days later (and I saw that he was online a couple times) so I thought that he must have just been annoyed, and didn't like me calling him out, and just disappeared, as people do these days. but then, he messages me the night before we were supposed to go out (even though we hadn't actually made concrete plans, or talked about it since, or say he got tickets or anything), and of course I was annoyed, since it was 2 days, and now just supposed to be available, when I was wondering for 2 days? well I didn't look, so he sends me another message, and I still don't respond, so he sends me another one, so I finally get on to look, and he says, "are we still on for tomorrow?" uh, what? I was just like "I don't think so..." and he was like "why not "
Good God.
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" but then he didn't, until 2 days later (and I saw that he was online a couple times) so I thought that he must have just been annoyed, and didn't like me calling him out, and just disappeared, as people do these days. but then, he messages me the night before we were supposed to go out (even though we hadn't actually made concrete plans, or talked about it since, or say he got tickets or anything), and of course I was annoyed, since it was 2 days, and now just supposed to be available, when I was wondering for 2 days? well I didn't look, so he sends me another message, and I still don't respond, so he sends me another one, so I finally get on to look, and he says, "are we still on for tomorrow?" uh, what? I was just like "I don't think so..." and he was like "why not 
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