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Location: Huntersville/Charlotte, NC and Washington, DC
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Originally Posted by srjth
All my kids are over 18 and flown the coop and this is new for me so I'm really enjoying it. I'm also looking for a special guy who is "the one" who I can spend the rest of my life with. I finally see a guy on the dating app who looks good to me but then I lost interest after he told me he had 4 kids who were all minors and living at home. Am I horrible for that?
I just don't feel like dealing with kids right now, I need a break.
(PS - FTR, I'm not interested in casual dating or "sometimes lovers". I'm looking for something serious and that's non-negotiable)
I completely understand and agree with your actions. If you don’t want to start over parenting, you did the best thing and not waste time pursuing that situation.
Okay, so I told him how I felt and added that I wasn't interested in something casual. He responded by saying that he wasn't interested in something casual because that is not romance (I like that! lol). He said he needed femininity in his life and unfortunately online dating is the best means he has. He said he has yet to figure out how women work and that so often the chance never happens even though they've both gone through all the motions. He congratulated me on raising kids and getting some freedom back and said that was great. Then asked me if his use of the word "baby" when he was flirting with me scared me off and gave me the wrong idea of his intentions. He asked me to give him feedback.
Yeah, I am shocked at the length of that response. I guess he just wants to talk?
All my kids are over 18 and flown the coop and this is new for me so I'm really enjoying it. I'm also looking for a special guy who is "the one" who I can spend the rest of my life with. I finally see a guy on the dating app who looks good to me but then I lost interest after he told me he had 4 kids who were all minors and living at home. Am I horrible for that?
I just don't feel like dealing with kids right now, I need a break.
(PS - FTR, I'm not interested in casual dating or "sometimes lovers". I'm looking for something serious and that's non-negotiable)
There are many reasons why people choose not to pursue relationships with other people, so why would losing interest due to his kids make you horrible? There are other women out there who will date him regardless, but it doesn’t have to be you.
All my kids are over 18 and flown the coop and this is new for me so I'm really enjoying it. I'm also looking for a special guy who is "the one" who I can spend the rest of my life with. I finally see a guy on the dating app who looks good to me but then I lost interest after he told me he had 4 kids who were all minors and living at home. Am I horrible for that?
I just don't feel like dealing with kids right now, I need a break.
(PS - FTR, I'm not interested in casual dating or "sometimes lovers". I'm looking for something serious and that's non-negotiable)
That would make almost everyone a horrible person because my guess is that 90% of women would not want to date him.
You are not horrible. You did the raising kids thing. You want that chapter closed. Plenty of single people prefer partners with no children or all children over 18 & independent.
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