Would you tread lightly with someone with many failed relationships? (dating, boyfriends)
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I met this woman at an event. She was in her late 50s, she looked young for her age (like late 40s). Funny, she said she's always matched up with men my age at speed dating events.
Anyway, she tells me she's been divorced twice, had one broken engagements, and quite a few 3 year live-in boyfriends throughout the course of their lives, would you kind of be taken aback by this? She has no kids, so that's a plus.
If you were a man or woman that found this out, would you tread lightly?
A 57 year old woman has been dating for 40+ years. There's going to be a lot of baggage, one way or another. A 57 year old is going to have at one major failed relationship. The real upside here is that she never had any children. With older people dating, adult children's reactions are often a legitimate issue. You're lucky that you wouldn't have to deal with a 57 year old's bratty 20-35 year old children who would probably resent you.
I think you are in your mid to late 40s, so I think you'd be better off dating women 35-45, but probably 40-45 because the women 35-40 might be holding out hope for having a baby with a potential partner, and starting a relationship under a massively ticking biological clock isn't ideal. With the 40-45 year olds, the bio clock is more or less in the past, and they are still younger than you are. You'd also get more years in with a 40-45 year old.
I met this woman at an event. She was in her late 50s, she looked young for her age (like late 40s). Funny, she said she's always matched up with men my age at speed dating events.
Anyway, she tells me she's been divorced twice, had one broken engagements, and quite a few 3 year live-in boyfriends throughout the course of their lives, would you kind of be taken aback by this? She has no kids, so that's a plus.
If you were a man or woman that found this out, would you tread lightly?
That sounds about average for someone in their late 50’s to have gone through all of that.
Baggage like that for a person in their 30’s is oh my, a bit much.
I don't know, haven't all your own relationships so far up to age 45 "failed," technically? If by "failed" you mean ended? And all relationships end somehow.
I don't know, haven't all your own relationships so far up to age 45 "failed," technically? If by "failed" you mean ended? And all relationships end somehow.
I don't know, haven't all your own relationships so far up to age 45 "failed," technically? If by "failed" you mean ended? And all relationships end somehow.
This is what I was thinking. OP, if she'd had two divorces, and only one or two LTR's aside from that, you'd still find fault with her, maybe calling her "too picky" to date, or something. Why not just get to know her, and go from there?
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